Haiku most humble.
My husband has been
home for well over a month.
No shows on the road.
When he is touring
on a regular basis,
he is gone a lot.
Left here in our home
with son and dog to care for,
cope alone, I must.
I develop a
routine and a rhythm of
life that we stick to.
When my love comes home,
he totally disturbs that.
I get frustrated.
Like a true cooter
I take for granted effort
from him to help out.
I see the things that
bother me more starkly than
those which show his love.
There’s pee on the rim!
You didn’t check his diaper!?!
Pick up your gross socks!
But if I stop and
check in with my heart and think,
I realize this:
Whenever he’s gone,
there are very important
things that we will miss.









Jenty
Aww, that’s so gorgeous!
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janet
awesome.
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Kara - down to earth mommy
awww sniffle sniffle. I know what ya mean. My Air Force Hubby goes away and we get along fine then he comes back and things are good and messed up all at the same time. And the shift changes are a whole ‘nother story.
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Brandy
That was incredibly sweet.
I miss mine now!
Mackenzie's Momma
awwww. how sweet. It brought a tear to my eye! *dabs tears* okay i’m all better now. Just an FYI- i’m wrote about you on my blog cause i love you’res. oh and i put up a link for you(and fussy) for the bloggies!
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creative-type dad
That’s nice…!
Joyce
I needed that!
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Jenni
Thanks for the reminder. Dave is coming home tomorrow after a week on the road. I, too, get into the routine and freak when he *gasp* inserts himself into it.
Routine be damned. I’m going to enjoy the extra help this weekend!
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Veronica
It’s hard having to re-adjust. Good thing you love him.
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river
I know how you feel. My first hubby was in the army and he was often gone. Sometimes for three months at a time.
I voted for you, finally. Then I went and voted for Veronica, because I like her too.
Taz
what a lovely and cute post..
its amazing what we can take for granted some times..
Marylin
Aww what a great haiku
When J has some holiday time it’s nice for the first few days, btu as you say, it totally screws up the routine huh!
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Kelley
MPS was away working at his new job 5 days a week for 6 months. I had a baby and 5 & 7 year olds.
We were in a routine. A routine that would be turned on its head when Daddy came home.
So we spent the week missing him desperately and Sunday night glad he had gone!!!!
Sigh. You brought back those memories babe.
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Beck
I have never seen the word “cooter” in a haiku before. Verily, I am impressed.
wright
My husband isn’t even gone a lot, but I still take for granted all that he does. Thanks for writing this – it really hits home.
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Rachel
What a beautiful haiku sweetie.
It’s amazing the difference it makes when we take a moment and let our first initial instinct pass us by and go instead with our second. We see so much more clearly.
Beautiful and love the pictures!!
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Secret Agent Mama
I get this one. I get this one 100%. Great job.
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kara
Lovely.
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Marlee
So TRUE! Thanks for the post.
Kim
SarcasticMom shows her soft side!
I have a husband that is gone a lot as well and I totally understand. Your groove gets all screwed up when he’s home and you ping-pong back and forth between being very happy to have him there and just wishing he’d get the hell out of the way!
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Sister Sassy
Ok, I’m with Beck. Using the word Cooter is unexpected and great.
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Dawn
yeah.
we’re pissed that they are gone and then we’re pissed when they come home cuz they can’t mind read … poor boys.
oh wait … mine is off sleeping 8 hours a night ..
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Sister Honey Bunch
Preach it, sister! So true.
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Penelope Anne
Very cute, and I can relate to the monkey wrench sense that having hubby home creates.
Hey, I made a silly award for housewives, but you need to decide if you want it…so pop into the Cafe.
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Jodi
husbands,
you can’t live with them, you can’t live without… wait, i’m going to have to think about this one….
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melissa
Spouse used to travel a lot, so I know about the routine and having it disrupted.
Great ku!
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Kathryn
That is natural. I do the same thing. My hubby goes on hunting trips and when he comes home there is an adjustment period again. It is good that you realize you have to be patient. I have to tell myself that too.
Great ku!
I’m off to vote for you now!
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Lou Lohman
From ‘the rack’ to romantic in less than 24 hours. You are amazing. Big Hug, girl, Big Hug.
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Karen MEG
Lotus, that was beautiful.
Hubs travelled a lot when G was first born (not to the extent of your hub, though), so it was challenging at times with the two kidlets and one less set of hands for a week out of every four . And you’re right, you have to adjust to a routine just to make it through the day. Put Dad back into the puzzle and it becomes a bit more chaotic.
But he is our world. You’ve captured that perfectly.
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Ree
I think you need to tour to Ionia Fairgrounds in June.
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Lilacspecs
Very sweet post. I think a lot of us get that way with significant others at times.
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justmylife
My hubby is home every night, but there are some days I miss having him home. He was off for a few months with back surgery and I thought I would be so glad to get him back to work, but I missed him the first day he went back. Great Haiku. (Forgive any errors, on pain pills and a little off)
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Kim
It is crazy how that works.. Love this Ku.
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A Jill of All Trades
I’m so quick to fuss, too. He’s hardly ever home and all I want to do is complain about how he’s messing up everything by being there. Calloused, huh? I love him tremendously. I need to get over myself.
Who does your hubs play for?
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3 little monkeys
I can so relate since hubby works so much!
Great haiku and great pics!
Junebug
So true. But you can’t help it if you’re thrown off your daily routine when he comes and goes. But reminding yourself constantly to be thankful is a good thing. I have to do that too.
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storyteller
Routines can be comfortable and change stressful, but it’s good to see the good and bad in all things and appreciate both. Excellent Haiku. I watched the tennis match and wrote a 2nd Haiku …of a lament I suppose.
Hugs and blessings,
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witchypoo
That picture of your dog licking Braden? All I can think of is the “I can has turdburger” picture from earlier.
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amy
I feel you sistah! My husband travels often too, we get in our routine and he comes up and jacks it all up! But then I see him with the girls and it melts my heart, okay I miss him too! And then I point out the lightbulbs that need replaced.
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cate
oh, what a sweet Haiku! and it’s so true…i think we all do this at some point.
love the pics!
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Oh, The Joys
So… when he does a show he wears a wig?
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Maggie
So very, very sweet, and so true. Good stuff, Lotus!
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Bill
Oh and you say I write sad stuff…the last one got me. Damn you…*sniff*
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Misty Dawn
That last photo is absolutely priceless!
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Jientje
Yes!! Oh yes, I can see what you mean!
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Tasina
Jeff and I have had two big separations (one because of moving one because of remodeling) and it was hard to be apart AND hard to be back. I feel ya babe.
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zoe
wonderful-as always!
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Just a mom
wait he is with him????? holly cow am I lucky to know you
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Anglophile Football Fanatic
I hope J read that. He’d melt into a puddle. I’m glad you are getting time with him home. B deserves daddy time.
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Redneck Mommy
My husband Boo, has been gone for a month.
He’s due home tomorrow for four days.
This was a timely reminder not to chew his face off for leaving dirty socks on the floor and forgetting to shut off the bathroom light.
Thank you for this valuable public service announcement.
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MP
Your husband is a ROCK STAR!!!!!!
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Eve
Ah, you bring back memories of years spent with a cross-country trucker. Gone for 3 weeks, home for 36 hours. Totally doesn’t get how our lives are arranged. I used to tell people “At least we don’t fight much. It’s too expensive over long distance.” Great ‘ku, great memories, too.
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Kay
Awww the Mexican loves the closet kid!!
I totally voted for you btw. I took your closet tip and it worked wonders. The kid is a little pale from the lack of sunlight and hoarse from the screaming but all in all it is worth it.
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clickmom
I feel put out when mine comes home from a regular day at work! Business trips are like a big treat for me.
You inspired me I am figuring out my own haiku as I write.
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Stephaine
That was beautiful.
Thank You for sharing your husband with us, he is truly an amazing entertainer!
One day you will get the maid and nanny you deserve!
Amanda
Since my husband is never gone for 24 hours or more at a time, I guess it is okay for me to yell at him constantly, right?
Actually, now I feel bad knowing he has to put up with me every single day. No wonder he’s so grumpy.
Send my love to your John and Braden! I haven’t talked to John in such a long time, and then I was thinking about how much fun we had eating “Meskin” food (and how Aaron had two straws) with you guys.
Audra
Having found you, and voted blindly for you, on the bloggies (as I hated your competitors) I decided I needed to have a looksee at what I had just voted for.
And I’ve decided I want to be just like you when I grow up.
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Avery
Aww! My man is upstairs, but when he comes down, I’m gonna plant a big wet one on him. You’ve inspired me. Thanks, girl!
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Annie
That picture of the two of them is so sweet!!
Manda
Okay, you won me over at “cooter”. Seriously. There is a restaurant in this town we visit sometimes call Cooters. They have tshirts and everything.
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Karleigh
Yay! John’s home! You guys need to call me tomorrow about the mac he wanted. I left a message on his phone.
regina
aaaahhh, that was great!
Have a great weekend!
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HRH
so true. so true. so true. enjoy it if you can!
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CableGirl
Ok. super cool. So not what I was expecting when I saw a Haiku Friday. Nice work.
Please Please Please *do* combine your Haiku Friday with Flashbacks. I can’t wait to see what you come up with.
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imaginary sarah
Aw, lady. You rock the haiku skillz with meaning and poetry. When you talk about John leaving, I miss him, too. Tell him to come back to Denver to buy the Porters some lunch. He said he owes us (and who are we to turn that down?).
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Christina
That was so sweet.
And I had no idea your husband was a rocker! That’s awesome! (although sometimes lonely. I can see the lonely, too.)
SJSFalter
I like this one. A. Lot. You hit it spot on girl.
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To Kiss the Cook
Lotus- I’ve been casually seeing a guitarist (mostly folk/indie rock) for about a year and a half. After a great week with him home from the road, things have started to turn a little bit more serious. This is a person who I could tell stories with for hours, makes me laugh constantly and who has a genuine interest in the world around him and brings the same sentiment out in me.
My question are as follows:
a) I’m pretty independent so the road thing, while hardly ideal, isn’t scary. BUT. The trust thing. He has college girls throwing themselves at him constantly (nature of the beast) and the gorgeous singer/songwriters on tour. He seems to think he can handle it but I am very hesitant. How did you figure it out with John?
b) The scehdules. I’m a PR writer. I work normal hours then stay up too late reading/writing/ watching TiVo. He’s ready to chat at 4am. Tuesday, he texted me at 6:30 my time while I was at the gym but before he’d been to bed. Does this ever get easier or do you just learn the art of catatonic conversation?
c) The lifeshare. Do you ever visit John on the road? Not to check up on him but to know who he’s with all the time. I feel like I’d be compelled to do that a couple times a tour but neither of us have careers with the extra cash for this.
Anyway…these are my ramblings for someone who has clearly worked it out (mostly).
BlogLove.
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