Because I am kind, polite, and always helpful.
I’m here to help you all out with a bit of friendly information for bloggers and those who use social media applications for business or networking with others. This is also good information for halfwits who have access to a computer and whack at the keys in random order.
Having some type of contact information on your website and your social media pages is a good idea if you’re interested in interacting with the outside world. And I’m assuming that if you use things like Twitter, etc, then that is most likely the case. Especially if you send out @’s to people.
One might want to contact you about something – elaborate her feelings. Maybe relate to you something FYI. (By the way, since I’m being helpful today, FYI means “For Your Information.”) A person might want to do that privately, between you and her, out of respect for you. Because hey, that’s the decent thing to do, right? So she looks for your email address.
But if you don’t leave your contact information anywhere, this becomes difficult.
It doesn’t have to be your personal email address – set up a business account, whatever.
I can’t find an email I need right now. And I can’t shut this.
So here I am! Lucky, lucky you. You feel so lucky, don’t you? Come on… tell me you do.
And by the way, I have a general rule of not calling out specific people on my website, but damn it, if you belittle my friends publicly? When you stand up in a public forum and go out of your way to put down someone I love – someone who is a damn fine person, both intelligent and compassionate? You’re pushing me.
This was brought to my attention yesterday:
And it is bullshit.
Because, hai! You can follow and unfollow whoever the hell you want on Twitter. But announcing it as a Tweet is about the most STUPID ASS THING you can do. You deserve an immediate STFU when you do that.
I was not happy. Leslie is a close friend.
photo credit: Angie
*cough*
So, anyway, she is a close friend and she doesn’t deserve that kind of treatment.
So. I checked out this Keyboard Whacker. Here is her bio:
And you know, I have no problem with that, whatsoever. I want to say that at the outset here. I am not a Believer Basher or a Jesus Hater. If you know me, you know that. But, and here’s another FYI moment for you, know this: Your Twitter Bio represents who you are, and everyone visiting your page will take it as that. Because this is how you’re representing yourself in a nutshell. So, hey, if you write it there, people are going to refer to it. Doubt that not.
Ok. Taking out the name, but I’m well aware you can easily find it. Just don’t see the need for it here.
So -
from @SarcasticMomLC
from @VDog
from Keyboard Whacker
Someone forgot the daily challenge they typed in their own bio. Rut-roh!
Oh, and this was the offending snatchiness.
As far as I can gather, he didn’t separate himself from sinners, either.
from @SarcasticMomLC
from Keyboard Whacker
from Keyboard Whacker
Just for FYI. You know, in other words, just for for your information.
Man, I think those might just be the most sincere apologies I’ve ever seen.
from Keyboard Whacker
Pioneer Woman Blog College? LMMFAO Oh, my.
from @VDog
from Keyboard Whacker
You might want to revisit the process.
Wait. What the? Hold on. Okay. “you got did from my bio…” *scanning, scanning* Nope. Does not process.
from @VDog
That is, more or less, what unfolded. It’s ridiculous, and yes it’s drama. Oooh, the gossipy drama. Which, yeah. But I had to go there this time. (Please to be scrolling back up and reviewing the Flinger Kissing photo and the part about she’s mah beesh forevah.)
And then the rest of that crap just left me needing to talk to this woman a little, but not really out there, or only in 140. But I couldn’t nail down her damn email address.
And so here goes it, the open letter to Keyboard Whacker.
I definitely don’t hold Christians to a standard of perfection. However, most “followers of Jesus” generally aim to be more like Him. Is that not what you are challenged to do every day? Enlighten me to your different way of following Him if that is not the case. If you are announcing these things about your relationship with and to Jesus on your Twitter page, you might want to try harder to represent his ideals appropriately to the public as you use your account. You make a very poor example for others if you can’t even filter yourself enough to avoid attacking other people for minding their own business and being themselves on their own turf. Jesus’ aim is to deliver us from sin, not belittle us for it. I have high doubts that he would say to anyone “You cuss, I can’t hang with you because I don’t like foulness.” Instead, I’m thinking He would show that person love and compassion. Do you think he would publicly humiliate a person for their sins? Personally, I don’t. So get a clue. You’re not perfect, we get it. But I’m calling bullshit on you this time, because it needs to be done. Even your apology to Leslie (mrsflinger) is a cop out – you apologized “if you offended her” – you didn’t apologize for belittling her. And you claimed she needed to know why you were unfollowing her – as if she needs to change who she is comfortable being so that she doesn’t lose followers. Some things are more important to people in life than their number of Twitter followers – Leslie is secure in who she is, and she doesn’t need your “for FYI” comments. But if you really feel the need in the future to connect with someone and let them know why you are unfollowing, I suggest you email them. Most of us have really easy to find contact information on our websites. And that’s probably the decent thing to do. I’m thinking it’s likely what a modern day Jesus would do. So your challenge continues – and yes it IS your mission, unless you were lying on your Twitter bio. So I hope you’re better able to accomplish it today, tomorrow, and every day after, if that is what you find fulfilling.
Peace.
So that’s that. And I feel better having gotten it out.
But I saved something delicious for you to end with.
There’s a Tweet Bot that auto-retweets certain user tweets – somehow I ended up on this list. (I know, I’m SO HONORED. Yeah.) Well. It retweeted my earlier messages to Keyboard Whacker.
And? She actually talked back to it.
from Keyboard Whacker
from @SarcasticMomLC
The End.
Thoughts?
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Amanda of Shamelessly Sassy
I like you.
.-= Amanda of Shamelessly Sassy´s last blog ..Lunch Dates with Allie =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Amanda of Shamelessly Sassy, I like you, too! What a coincidence.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Karen Sugarpants
Wow! I missed all that as it happened…but OH so funny at the end – lmfao!
.-= Karen Sugarpants´s last blog ..Karen SadAngryHappySillyEmoPants =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Karen Sugarpants, Yeah, the devil horns in me couldn’t resist that one. It was too good. Microwave. #snort
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Whit
I used to follow Jesus until he stopped making wine. Now I follow Robert Mondavi.
.-= Whit´s last blog ..I Brood and I’m Dangerous =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Whit, Nice. And do you try to include him in all?
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Jessica
Lordy I followed most of this. I HATE people like this. It seems the most judgmental hateful people claim to be christians. OH and when did snatch become a bad word. I literally had to hold myself back yesterday from tweeting her as many ‘snatch’ s as I could fit in 140 characters. Sheesh.. And I’m sorry, Ree isn’t perfect, I love her blog but I’m sure she rolls out of bed and goes “FUCK it’s early!” No one raises kids without the occasional foul word..besides it’s a ranch with cowboys, isn’t that required?! She states at one point in her blog that she reins much of it in because her grandmother reads it.. Ugh..
.-= Jessica´s last blog ..A Saturday at the coast =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Jessica, I don’t think that’s really the case (about Christians). What I do think is the case is that the ones that get really vocal and dumb create a lasting, and negative impression. It’s a shame, really.
Picturing Ree getting out of bed saying, “FUCK, it’early!” is really rather fun. It makes me giggle.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Lynn (Walking With Scissors)
God, you’re gorgeous when you’re angry. I love me some mama bear Lotus in the evening.
.-= Lynn (Walking With Scissors)´s last blog ..A 12 Step Program Involving Chocolate =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Lynn (Walking With Scissors), No wonder my husband is so attracted to me! I can haz hawt when I iz pissed? Hahaha.
Rawr!
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Suzanne
Amen, sister!
I find the people who have ‘mission statements’ such as keyboard whacker are the ones who go around treating the world like crap 6.5 days of the week, then spend two hours in church on Sunday, where they are magically forgiven.
There are many Christians who follow Jesus’ words without the ‘look at me’ attitude.
I have to wonder if Keyboard Whacker is a total noob to Twitter, or just an arrogant holy roller?
BTW, Kudos to the two of you for continuing to question her reasoning in attacking the lovely Mrs. Flinger.
.-= Suzanne´s last blog ..Paging the Tooth Fairy =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Suzanne, It’s unfortunate that the large number of Christians who don’t behave this way are ultimately judged on the impression created by people who do behave as such.
I think there’s probably some noob dimension involved, as well as a possible overall lowered ability to use grey matter efficiently.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Ness
OH I love a good cat fight.
I had a sincerely good snort about the
“for FYI” well dang it if I ain’t snortin’ again.
Yep, no need to diss others via Twitter – it is a free world out there beesh. Nobody needs to know who you’re unfollowing – if everyone was like her, then @magnetoboldtoo would have no readers at all (I *love* her) did you ever read what she posted for her ’7000th’ tweet? It is SNORT worthy.
Twitter: droversrunness
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Ness, I absolutely cannot stand it when people announce publicly their follows and unfollows. It’s just not necessary.
And yes! I did see Kelley’s 7000th Tweet. Love that beesh.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Lilacspecs
Honestly?
I totally understand how you felt and it’s admirable to stand up for a friend. Plus I inevitably cringe at people who like to announce their Christianity to the world because in my experience many of the people who advertise their religion are actually the worst it keeping to the mores (spelling?) of said religion.
But tag teaming someone like that? I dunno, it seems just as inappropriate as what she did by insulting Mrs. Flinger. It’s like, you were mean to my friend, so now we’re gonna circle you in the cafeteria and take turns shoving you while everyone watches.
You know I love your blog and I think you totally rock, but I figured I4d give my honest opinion.
Kaiser Mommy
@Lilacspecs, Actually, you have proved the general point *beautifully*. You stated your differing opinion with respect and zero belittlement. Keyboard Whacker could learn from you.
The snark in her original message and then her following faux innocence about it is what got my goat the most. I wish her original message would have been more like, “Reading Cussing gives me nervous gas and I have to unfollow b/c I don’t want to make my kids gag.”
But seriously – you illustrated this perfectly – and minus snark. love that.
.-= Kaiser Mommy´s last blog ..Boozeday – Little Club No. 1 =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Lilacspecs, I can’t really make the leap to see people disagreeing with one another on Twitter to be a pushing match. Especially when it could have gotten way uglier, hypothetically, but didn’t because of restraint. Also, I can promise you that if we had gone to school together and someone stood up in the cafeteria and yelled to everyone something clearly intended to insult you, I’d have had some choice words to say to her then, too. It’s not her vocalizing her opinion about being a “potty mouth” that I cared about so much as her obvious desire to publicly badmouth someone else (who happens to me my friend). And if the number is disparaging one one side of that public debate vs the other, it might just be that no one was going to touch her argument with a 10 foot pole. Because she was in the wrong. Personally, I just can’t let that fall by the wayside. Have to say something when someone stabs out at my friends. If your friends don’t stand up for you, who will? But I also didn’t rip her to shreds by ANY means. Again, I really can’t see this is a tag-team or a pushing match. This woman got vocal, and so did we. Piecing it back together the way I did (it happened over more time) makes it seem more tag-teamy than it really is, I think. So I guess it’s just a different POV between us. And you know I completely respect you for giving your honest opinion. Thanks!
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Shannanb aka Mommy Bits
You are an amazing friend!
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Shannanb aka Mommy Bits, I think I react in the way that I want my friends to reach when I’ve been hurt by someone. We can see our friends closely and we absorb their hurts in a way that more distant onlookers cannot. Spurs action, sometimes, doesn’t it? Thanks, Shannan!
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Summer
I almost sent her an “FYI – No one cares” tweet yesterday when I saw all this, but I was trying to be polite and crap. This post, however, perfection wrapped in awesome.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Summer, Thank goodness there ARE polite people out there.
I’ve been itching to @ “for FYI” tweets and “snatch” and “motherfucker” tweets, but I’m practicing restraint. (It’s not easy!) The devil inside me is almost always dancing more furiously than is evident from the outside. Haha.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Amo
Wow. She really stepped in it, huh? Sorry I missed all the action. I am still giggling over the ‘tweetbot’ thing.
.-= Amo´s last blog ..My BlogHer Recap. (No, you didn’t miss a thing. *Ahem*) =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Amo, That is really the icing on the cake for me. Poor thing didn’t know what she was doing.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
'cuz I'm the mommy, that's why!
I miss out on so much by my lack of tweeting and Twittering and all that other stuff. SOO disappointed.
You are an awesome friend to stand up to a troll.
I hate trolls.
I lurve you!
.-= ‘cuz I’m the mommy, that’s why!´s last blog ..The Ghost Light =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@’cuz I’m the mommy, that’s why!, Get your arse over to Twitter, you! ;-P
Twitter: LotusCarroll
WackyMummy
Funny! LMFAO! Glad to hear you guys set her straight. =)
.-= WackyMummy´s last blog ..Almost Wednesday =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@WackyMummy, I’m not sure if she learned anything at all, but here’s to hoping.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
WackyMummy
@Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus,
.-= WackyMummy´s last blog ..Kiddie Party… It’s Always About the Food =-.
WackyMummy
@Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus, Oops. Anyway, now I’M following your tweets, so I guess her masterplan to bring you down didn’t work.
.-= WackyMummy´s last blog ..Kiddie Party… It’s Always About the Food =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@WackyMummy, There you are! Found ya. And now I’m following you as well. *waves*
Twitter: LotusCarroll
AmazingGreis
Dood, I always miss out on the good TWITTER drama/action when I’m away from Twitter. Damn job and other stuff that get in my Twittering way.
I unfollow people all the time, and would NEVER consider leaving a message stating why I’m unfollowing. Had no idea that anybody did that. LOL
Way to stick up for a friend. You and Vdog totally rock!
.-= AmazingGreis´s last blog ..This should hold you over… =-.
Twitter: AmazingGreis
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@AmazingGreis, I know, it’s incredibly tacky. I’ve seen people do it here and there, and I just don’t get it. Especially if the person in question has easy to find contact info and they could have just as easily send a message – you know, if they just want the person to know why they got unfollowed. In fact, done the right way, that could be a really nice thing. Oh well!
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Allie
I guess it is safe to say she wouldn’t like your BEWBS either?
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Allie, It’s sad for me to even think that there is anyone out there who wouldn’t like my BEWBS, Allie.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Kaiser Mommy
@keyboardwhacker doesn’t like potty mouth http://is.gd/22kjT this is me warning her in advance – ya dont want to follow me.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Kaiser Mommy, #SNORT Because that’s how you roll, and I luff you.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Cindy
For some reason I am very disturbed by all of this. From the actions of both sides. That is all.
.-= Cindy´s last blog ..The Passion of The Camera =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Cindy, I respect you stating that here, and I appreciate your opinion. Guess we’ll just have to agree to disagree on this one (as far as I can tell).
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Cindy
@Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus, by the way, Lotus, I like your Bewbs. tee hee.
.-= Cindy´s last blog ..The Passion of The Camera =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Cindy, *Whew* Thank goodness I still have something going for me with you. *wink*
Twitter: LotusCarroll
the planet of janet
i love you guys…
.-= the planet of janet´s last blog ..Days of auld lang syne and -30- (edited) =-.
Twitter: planetofjanet
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@the planet of janet, <3Janet
Twitter: LotusCarroll
lceel
Being a Christian doesn’t necessarily have to make a person a pariah (You know, I’ve been trying to use for that word for MONTHS) – it’s the ‘evangelism’ that’ll do it.
But – that said – I have a take on an old song -
“Jesus loves me, Yes, I know,
’cause keyboard whacker tells me so.”
Et cetera, et cetera, ad infinitum.
.-= lceel´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday – No Place On Earth =-.
Twitter: lceel
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@lceel, Definitely not – I know a LOT of Christians who don’t behave that way.
Does it feel all better to have that word out of your system?
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Jo
Ok (because I have no life except the internetz), I had to go and snoop and see the twitter stream. Good times, good times.
Note to self: Don’t piss off Lotus. Lotus will SMASH.
Also, now I know that if I publicly unfollow someone on Twitter (like I would anyway because SHEESH)…
*starts dancing*
I’ma start some drama,
You don’t want no drama,
No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama
So don’t pull on my hand boy,
You ain’t my man, boy,
I’m just tryn’a dance boy,
And move my hump.
My hump, my hump, my hump, my hump,
My hump, my hump, my hump, my hump, my hump, my hump.
My lovely lady lumps (lumps)
My lovely lady lumps (lumps)
My lovely lady lumps (lumps)
In the back and in the front (lumps)
Crap…sorry. I think I have ADD.
Oh, and I really only think my front lumps are lovely…the back ones…not so much…
*dances away*
.-= Jo´s last blog ..We have TEETH =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Jo, Hahaha!
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Jo
DAMMIT, now that song is stuck in my head.
*dances around office, collecting strange looks from coworkers*
.-= Jo´s last blog ..We have TEETH =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Jo, Please take video.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Jo
@Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus,
Not on your life. *snigger* However, if we ever meet IRL then I’ll happily do an instant replay.
.-= Jo´s last blog ..We have TEETH =-.
Shannanb aka Mommy Bits
I had a similar experience a little over a year ago. A woman came to my blog and attacked me for letting my children eat at McDonalds. At the time, a blogger I didn’t really even know came forward and helped me address the issue. She stood up for me just as you are doing for Leslie (who I xoxo). It was then and there that our friendship (read L-O-V-E) bloomed. That amazing, die hard friend is the one and only Amy of Amy in Ohio.
I love that you and Leslie have a similar friendship!
.-= Shannanb aka Mommy Bits´s last blog ..WW- Shadows in Chicago =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Shannanb aka Mommy Bits, Ah shit, that totally made me weepy. *girl cry cry hug*
Oooh. Sorry… I think I just snotted on your shoulder.
<3
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Michelle Smiles
First – wow that looks like a lot of work to cut and paste all of that! Second – hehe. Third, my biggest gripe with those who are so publicly christian is that they often seem to be the least tolerant and most judgmental – they don’t seem to internalize the teachings at all and spend their days looking down their noses at those who don’t live up to their standards of good behavior. (Gross generalization obviously – not all folks behave that way.)
.-= Michelle Smiles´s last blog ..See spot run =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Michelle Smiles, Oh, I definitely agree with this sentiment. I grew up in a no-holds barred atheist family, and it was really, really hard for me to be around my Christian friends b/c of the way they behaved. It wasn’t until I was in high school that I connected with someone who was able to really share her faith with me withOUT being judgmental and something or other about the fires of hell.
Incidentally, I am hot natured. So there. (hehe)
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Ashlie- Mommycosm
Wow – I missed all the drama. Good job, Lotus. For the record, if I ever get into a Twitter-fight, I’d definitely want you on my side;)
.-= Ashlie- Mommycosm´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday: Our weekend =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Ashlie- Mommycosm, I actually try really hard to stamp down my boiling insides most of the time (I can haz grownup adult relashunships?). But this was just bleh.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Melisa with one S
I wanted to yell, “JESUS! That is some heavy drama!” but thought it might be inappropriate, so I didn’t, for FYI (haha, that cracked me up).
Yikes. That is all.
.-= Melisa with one S´s last blog ..Let Me Take You For a Spin… =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Melisa with one S, Bahahaha! Nice. For FYI is one of those things that just really makes my face twitch.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Jenn
Wow, people are insane. I also enjoy smashing when angry.
.-= Jenn´s last blog ..Transcript of actual phone conversation =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Jenn, When that vein in the temple starts throbbing and the cheeks are really flushed… well it’s smart to keep the fine china away from me. My poor phone, she has taken so many a beating….
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Kat
oh miss sassy! this made my morning. thank you thank you thank you!
.-= Kat´s last blog ..On Friends =-.
Lotus
@Kat, And thank you!
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
Karleigh Sherer
People are fucking idiots. They obviously don’t understand the love of Christ, because if they did, they wouldn’t be judging you. Also, they don’t deserve to know you, you’re AWESOME.
Lotus
@Karleigh Sherer, And I don’t even have to pay you to say stuff like that. <3 ya, doll.
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
Wendi
OMG, I’m so happy I just started using Twitter in earnest. This is some good stuff right here.
.-= Wendi´s last blog ..The 5-Year-Old Graduate =-.
Lotus
@Wendi, Hahaha. Well, the best stuff are the great jokes and conversations among friends there, truly.
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
habanerogal
That woman just frosted my cornflakes. I think you are a standup person with VERY high integrity and while I don’t know Mrsflinger anyone you would stand up for is ok in my books. PW could school her up on how to be a better christian by just keepin her beliefs to herself
Lotus
@habanerogal, Oh, Mrs. Flinger is The SHIZNITE.
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
Mrs. Flinger
Loving these takes. And while I hate (HATE) the dramaz, I appreciate friends who don’t take shit on my behalf. (Because I take shit way too often)
you are mah LOVAH! XOXOXO
.-= Mrs. Flinger´s last blog ..Words We Aren’t Allowed to Say =-.
Lotus
@Mrs. Flinger, You so do. But you have a sisterhood of ladies who love you and won’t let ya do that, eh? You’re a compassionate and kind soul. I kinda like you. A lot. And stuff. (Let’s kiss again.)
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
Chibi Jeebs
*standing ovation*
I was glad to see you guys speak up yesterday. Keyboard Whacker’s tweet offended me on Mrs. Flinger’s behalf (heh). Y’all rock, for serious.
.-= Chibi Jeebs´s last blog ..*gnashes teeth* =-.
Lotus
@Chibi Jeebs, Aw, thanks. Some things just push to be said, you know?
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
rachel-asouthernfairytale
1. Never piss off da Lotus
2. Lotus is the kind of friend everyone should be so blessed to have
3. Bwhahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaa I snorted pancake at this. Do you KNOW how much that hurt?
4. I love Flinger and VDog and Lotus and Dawn
5. It sucks when people use “Christian” as a shield to hide behind when bullying. That’s as anti-Christian as you can get. IMO (that’s In My Opinion, being helpful like Lotus)
LOVE YOU. PS even through the Migraine watching that picture being taken made me laugh.
.-= rachel-asouthernfairytale´s last blog ..Potty Talk =-.
Lotus
@rachel-asouthernfairytale,
1. I can’t imagine you being capable of that.
2. Aw. Aw aw aw aw aw. Ditto on yourself, sweetness.
3. Holy crap on a cracker – did you need surgery for that?
4. What a coincidence! I do too. And they all lurve you.
5. DTSDB!? (Doesn’t that suck donkey balls!?)
I luff you, dollface.
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
Miss
So can we get married in your state? I know we can’t here but I’m not sure about the laws over there. Lemme know.
.-= Miss´s last blog ..Clair de Lune =-.
Lotus
@Miss, I’m willing to move to Vermont, if need be. Just sayin.
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
Gabriel
Oooh, like I needed another reason for lovin’ you, Lotus…
After carefully reading this person’s blog and twitter posts, though, I’m going to assume that this was all the product of ignorance and not malice. But this is because I always want to think the best about other people and their intentions…
Now, two questions (one a little irreverent, I know… but I’m from the United Church! We joke about these things and stuff):
1) What’s the point of proclaiming that you follow Christ in your blog? Does He have a Twitter account or somethin’?
2) How in the world did my microwave manage to unfollow me?
.-= Gabriel´s last blog ..WW#98 – Jump! =-.
Lotus
@Gabriel, You are probably right, but I feel like even ignorant bullshit needs to be called.
1)I can see the idea of spreading His word in proclaiming you are a follower – but I only think that actually works if people can come to admire you and your personality. So it’s a fine line you walk when you think you might be doing good by announcing it, eh? I don’t know. I really doesn’t bother me at all to see it in general. To each their own (and it’s been my own, hey). But this rubbed me the wrong way in the current context.
2)Omg, your microwave unfollowed you? Dude. What did you DO to the poor thing???
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
Gabriel
@Lotus, it found me in a compromising situation with the toaster oven. It’s not my fault, Jamaican patties taste much better when I warm them up in there!
Re: 1), nothing else to say. I think you have every right to feel the way you felt, and even more to go and stand for your friend. I respect that very much.
.-= Gabriel´s last blog ..Tell me Thursday – Our holidays =-.
Sarah
FUCAT.
Luvs you.
.-= Sarah´s last blog ..I Remembered The Cake =-.
Twitter: SarahInMI
Lotus
@Sarah, FUCAT FTMFW, Beesh! <3U2!
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
VDog
I always like a good healthy DEBATE about (twitter & general) mores.
Too many women believe that “conflict” = “fighting” which = “cattiness.”
If this had been a debate among MEN, I highly doubt we would be having this conversation.
I will stand up for my friends, and do it respectfully (as I believe I did here), because that’s how VDog rolls.
I will also let it slide if a friend doesn’t want me to stand up for them.
Hilarious post, Lotus, and great, healthy debate here in the comments.
Bravo.
.-= VDog´s last blog ..Boozeday – Little Club No. 1 =-.
Twitter: VDog
Jen
I don’t for one second think that this was a case of Twitter Drama, this was just an awesome friend sticking up for an awesome lady. I love me some Flinger too. I think you and VDog were perfectly respectable in your attempts to knock the bible thumpin keyboard whacker down a peg or two. Bravo.
.-= Jen´s last blog ..Chase – Month 2 =-.
Red Lotus Mama
AMEN! HALLELUJAH!
Thank you for that post and pointing out the clear differences of acting like a true follower of Jesus vs. holier than thou.
I had a very similar instance happen to me with my X’s cousin who claims to be a Christian, but openly criticized me and attacked me on Facebook & my blog. She was willing to throw stones at me without taking a look at her life, attitude and behavior. Not very Christian behavior if you ask me. Friends like Miss backed me up and I am so grateful for that. And, like Miss you are a great friend!
Issa
Don’t they all know by now, not to mess with the comment mafia?
Love all of this.
.-= Issa´s last blog ..The time has come, the walrus said… =-.
Jennifer A
Not getting people at all today. Yea, my blog bio does say Child of God, but I swear and drink and I’M HUMAN PEOPLE! I’m not perfect and as our priest is fond to say, If you think you’re perfect, try walking on water.
.-= Jennifer A´s last blog ..He’s so stinking cute I won’t sell him on eBay for now =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Jennifer A, Thanks for being willing to share your thoughts!
Here are some of mine, which we may just not agree on:
If your bio says you try to be the best person you can be every day, I expect that you try not to do things like announce your unfollows. I find that tacky as hell. I also expect that if you apologize for something – you apologize for it – you don’t apologize “if you offended” someone. A thing is right or wrong in your mind, not just if it offended someone, IMO. Leslie wasn’t doing anything to this person, this person made the decision (and she is an adult, accountable for her actions) to use an account where she announces that she tries to be a good person to put another down. Seems a little off kilter to me. Like if my bio said, “I support people who eat cheese!” and then I was Tweeting that a specific person is disgusting because they eat cheese. Just wouldn’t make much sense.
And I did say that I don’t hold Christians (or anyone, for that matter) to a standard of perfection. I’ve walked this walk, I get it. But being accountable for your public actions is something we should all be ready and willing to accept, for good or bad.
We aren’t perfect, any of us. For sure.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Amanda
LMFAO#&*$^*^#&*^%&SghuGSYF(&#*#&*!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I love you.
Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba)
I think defending friends is admirable. But you did that, via Twitter. By bringing it here you took it to another level, which I wouldn’t have done.
I had a situation last week in which I was called out by a commenter on another blog. A VERY popular blog. I hadn’t done anything wrong. I ended up e-mailing the blog’s owner and apologized if she’d found my comment hurtful/heartless/thoughtless (what the other commenter variously called my comment). The blog’s owner wrote me back to say that she actually agreed with my comment. I felt better, but I still felt dreadfully embarrassed.
Perhaps this person on Twitter’s actions and the words of her bio weren’t perfectly aligned. But, honestly, I don’t think she intended to be ugly. Actually, I don’t think she WAS ugly. I can’t help but wonder if she’s been embarrassed for something she really didn’t intend to be anything other than an FYI.
Yes, perhaps it’s silly that I was embarrassed about a blog comment… and silly if the person in your situation is embarrassed…
But who said life in Blog Land was any different than life in, well, Life?
My 2 cents…
.-= Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba)´s last blog ..Clearly, I need to plan better next time… =-.
Twitter: ramblingreba
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba), Hey, Reba! Thanks for speaking up and leaving your viewpoints. I admire that.
You said, “Who said Blog Land was any different than life in, well, Life?” And I can assure you that if you put my friends down “in real life” I’m going to stand up and say something about it, too. In public, in private, however it is that I have to reach you. Maybe you think that’s wrong – but that’s how I function.
I also don’t see the huge difference between “on Twitter” and “on Blog,” but I supposed some do. “On Twitter” I can only make 140 character statements which can really be taken the wrong way b/c I’m not able to elaborate. “On Blog” I can speak more freely, and the discussion in comments is much easier to follow – maybe we’ll all learn something from one another that would get lost in clicks back and forth on Twitter.
I’m sorry you were made to feel embarrassed by your experience – but in the end, you had a dialogue with someone about it, and maybe you made a new connection, or gained a new viewpoint. As adults using these social media and blogging platforms, we make choices about what we want to say “to the masses.” We also need to be accountable for the things we say. I’m owning this post, and my words. I’m fine with that. I think this person was willing to take what came her way, too.
In fact, if I can quote to you directly from her: “If u put your stuff out there publicly u must be ready for public backlash, ok?”
We all have to realize that we’re not in a bubble. When you make a comment on someone’s website – it’s out there. You have to be okay with that if you’re going to leave the comment. If you’re embarrassed by it, then maybe it’s something you might want to think about before you leave a comment the next time. This has, in fact, happened to me. I’ve hugely changed the way I comment. I’ve embarrassed myself quite nicely in the past, in fact. It’s like riding in your car and picking your nose – you think other people can’t see you, but they can. If you wouldn’t do it in front of a rapt crowd, maybe don’t do it online or even in your car.
One last thing – even if she didn’t mean to be tacky and offensive – she still was. And when you do something crappy, even if it’s unintentional, you still need to be ready to take the heat/make amends. Frankly, thinking you have to “FYI” anyone else in that fashion is insulting and seems fairly holier than thou in and of itself. Just my opinion.
You know I adore you, Reba, and I really do appreciate you sharing your thoughts and opinions. Maybe we just respectfully disagree on this one and still heart each other?
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Veronica
Ha! So THAT’S why I keep losing followers. I say the word fuck much too much. Whoops.
I love Leslie too. I should really stop the lurking on her blog I have going on.
.-= Veronica´s last blog ..6 weeks. =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Veronica, You only lose the ones you really didn’t need in the first place, no? And yes, you should! Leslie is a little thing people like to call Teh Awesome.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
cindy w
I saw this play out on Twitter. And I gotta say, I lurves me some Mrs. Flinger.
And now, I lurves me some Lotus, because damn, you kick ass.
.-= cindy w´s last blog ..completely random topic change =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@cindy w, SCORE!
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Colleen - Mommy Always Wins
[Insert video you took at MomaPop Party HERE.]
{MWAH!}
.-= Colleen – Mommy Always Wins´s last blog ..Speaking of things one does for oneself… =-.
Twitter: mommy_wins
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Colleen – Mommy Always Wins, Hahahaha! <3
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Mrs. Flinger
She does, baby. SHE DOES.
.-= Mrs. Flinger´s last blog ..Words We Aren’t Allowed to Say =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Mrs. Flinger, I just licked you. Did you feel it?
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba)
@Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus, @Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus,
We surely can agree to disagree and still heart each other.
Although, truly, I don’t disagree with what you’re saying (you have to be willing to take the heat, etc.). I think it’s a difference of opinion in how *much* needs to be said. Does that make sense?
As for me, I did learn from my experience last week, mainly that I need to develop a slightly thicker skin AND that I need to have more confidence in myself when I leave what is, actually, a good comment that others might not like.
.-= Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba)´s last blog ..Clearly, I need to plan better next time… =-.
Twitter: ramblingreba
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba), Yeah, I can get that. I think maybe our meters are just calibrated differently.
Love the last part of this comment. Good evaluation!
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Burgh Baby
It’s about damn time someone has the balls to talk about drama openly. Women can be such bitches and talk about stuff behind peoples’ back and behind closed doors. I love that everyone involved had the balls to just discuss it and get it over with.
Lotus
@Burgh Baby, I think the discussion is really the most valuable dimension of bringing this to the blog platform.
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
Josh
damn.. I sure am glad that twitter seems so silly to me…
.-= Josh´s last blog ..I think I might like my new sister… =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Josh, It is silly. So so wonderfully silly.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
laprimera
I am so in love with you right now! MWAH!
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@laprimera, I score with all the hot chicks.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba)
@Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus,
.-= Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba)´s last blog ..Bloggy drama… =-.
Twitter: ramblingreba
Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba)
@Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba), GAH! I didn’t mean to reply to this… just meant to check to see if I COULD reply. (Feel free to delete both of these comments.)
.-= Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba)´s last blog ..Bloggy drama… =-.
Twitter: ramblingreba
Sue
I really like your blog. You’re a great writer. Love your sassy style.
But…. But, but, but.
The original Twitter conversation was what it was, but this blog post just smacks of middle school drama.
“And then I said…”
“…and then she said…”
“and then I said, well if you mess with MY friends, I’ll kick your ass.”
Yuck.
(I’m assuming Mrs. Flinger is a grown woman who chooses to put her words out there and can accept that some people won’t like them, right? I mean – she’s not a four year old who requires the protection of her friends when someone publicly unfollows her, is she?)
Maybe I just don’t get it. Maybe unfollowing someone publicly is now the Ultimate Insult Which Must Be Avenged En Masse? I missed the memo.
Bleck.
And I say that with love.
.-= Sue´s last blog ..In Which I Attempt To Thank People For Throwing Me A Baby Shower, But Mostly End Up Rambling a Lot =-.
Lotus
@Sue, I guess some people just feel differently about their sisterhoods.
I also think the opportunity to dialogue about it that is available on the blog format is actually valuable.
And to be fair, I never, ever said anything near the words you suggested (“I’ll kick your ass.”) In fact, I think that’s far from the sentiment of the original disagreement.
Don’t know if we can meet in the middle on this one. I have expressed a few elaborations in comments (don’t know if you read through all that). And perhaps you’ll just have to give me this pass – we surely can’t always like/agree with everything about one another. Maybe we’ll join on something else.
And I appreciate your candor, above all. Thanks for the comment.
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
Secret Mom Thoughts
I still love you and your potty mouth. Love the last tweet. Too funny.
.-= Secret Mom Thoughts´s last blog ..Then and Now Thursday =-.
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@Secret Mom Thoughts, *Whew*
<3
Twitter: LotusCarroll
divacowgirl
You can’t see me, but I’m standing up applauding
.-= divacowgirl´s last blog ..No train of thought here =-.
Twitter: divacowgirl
Sarcastic Mom, aka Lotus
@divacowgirl, Oh, wait, look… there you are! Thanks.
Twitter: LotusCarroll
jennyonthespot
Shazam. Preach it sistah. Youz a good fren. Mrs. Flinger deserves good friends. Adore her. Adore you… Go gurl.
.-= jennyonthespot´s last blog ..Original Versus Old =-.
Lotus
@jennyonthespot, Well, I usually try to stay even kilter as far as online and other people, but I made a choice this time. Some people think it’s great, some don’t. As with all things that everyone does, says, and thinks, I guess! Thanks, Jenny.
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
schmutzie
You are being featured on Five Star Friday!
http://www.fivestarfriday.com/2009/08/five-star-fridays-edition-65.html
Cassandra Rae
I’m so glad I’m not puttin’ down any of your friends :~)
I’m thinking that Keyboard Whacker didn’t mean to be so condescending. But yeah, there is no need to announce unfollows like that.
.-= Cassandra Rae´s last blog ..The Root of Happiness is… =-.
Lotus
@Cassandra Rae, It was what it was, eh? I’ve seen it plenty times before and kept my mouth shut. Got tired of it this time. Also, PMS may have been a factor. Hahahaha.
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
Missives From Suburbia
Clearly, I need to start making time for Twitter again, because that was hilarious! Good for you!
.-= Missives From Suburbia´s last blog ..The Worthless Nature of To-Do Lists =-.
Lotus
@Missives From Suburbia, I think the stuff on Twitter other than this is probably way better. Heh.
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
Tarasview
wow… look at everything I missed by going on holidays??? That’ll teach me!
I must say that I am definitely a Christian and happy to be so but I truly and passionately hope I don’t come across as judgemental. I read lots of blogs with content I don’t necessarily embrace 100% but for me that is the beauty of the blogosphere- we can be ourselves with all our differing viewpoints and personalities etc. and still love each other and learn from each other. Not that it always happens that way but it is a worthy goal.
hugs to you my dear for sticking up for your friend… a worthy pursuit indeed.
I hope you have a wonderful drama-free weekend… well… other than the drama Braden brings your way… that just can’t be escaped
.-= Tarasview´s last blog ..aden + anais hooded towel set GIVEAWAY!! =-.
Lotus
@Tarasview, I think it’s better for us all to interact and try to understand one another, really. And I’ve never found you to seem judgmental at all… it is definitely NOT the professing of faith here that I had an issue with. Really.
<3
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
Lisa
I have to say this, even though I’m pretty sure it will be either ridiculed or ignored. I have been a reader of yours for quite a while, and I follow you on Twitter. But this? This is a disgrace. You decide to publicly shame someone for publicly shaming someone? Shame on you.
Lotus
@Lisa, I’m kind of wondering why you thought your comment would be ridiculed or ignored, more than anything else.
Of course you are entitled to you opinion, as is everyone. I don’t have to agree with you any more than you agree with me, eh?
There is no one on this earth who you will agree with in action, words, or thought 100% of the time. Any married couple will emphatically back up this statement (snort). So shame on me? Ok, if you say so. Shame on everyone else who ever does, says, or thinks anything that anyone else thinks is wrong, too? We can disagree without you having to verbally waggle your finger at me. Or maybe not. I’m appreciative that you’ve been interested in my posts for so long – but eventually you’re going to come across something you don’t like. I’m okay with that – I hope you are, too.
By the way, I don’t intend ridicule here, but I really did have to laugh at the fact that you just pointedly called me out, called me a disgrace, and then “shamed” me. You know, in a public forum. For publicly shaming someone.
Because seriously, that’s what you just did to me. Because you were moved to do so. (“I have to say this….”)
It’s like a vicious circle, you realize.
Twitter: SarcasticMomLC
Tarasview
@Lotus, oh I’ve never thought you had an issue with professing faith- we have had lovely discussions before and I have truly valued your input- I absolutely love your honesty. I find myself resonating with you on a very regular basis
.-= Tarasview´s last blog ..aden + anais hooded towel set GIVEAWAY!! =-.
Sugar Jones
Well, shit… just when I started to get VDog used to a Christian that can cuss and drink and play with vibrators. DAMN IT!
.-= Sugar Jones´s last blog ..What Do You Mean Twitter Was Hacked?? =-.
Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing]
Things I am grateful for on the interwebs:
Lotus has my back.
Avitable has my front.
We protect our own.
.-= Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing]´s last blog ..It’s no wonder, or maybe it is, I’m an Aiming Low writer =-.
Kecia
Well..I am not in the cool -real- bloggers club..am a lurker mostly and have a place I write a little and throw up a few pics of my kiddo. BUT… I pretend Lotus is my friend. (you know how we read a blog and want to share with someone what it says and its easier to say..well my “friend said..) and now I feel better because if the mean girls are around, I know Lotus will stand up for me.. and by “me” I mean the metaphorical me… the un-cool non blogger me. It has been very interesting to read this thread and its comments and makes me glad to be a woman.
.-= Kecia´s last blog ..Our failed adoption =-.
Alana Morales, Author Domestically Challenged
I saw your response on Twitter, but not the whole thing. Freekin hilarious. Just what I needed this morning. Keep it up!
Alana
.-= Alana Morales, Author Domestically Challenged´s last blog ..Back to school and I need a drink! =-.
Billie
A Word To The Wise!
I have listened to doctors, teachers, counselors as well as social workers dish out advice about our children and some of it is well taken, but all must be critically perused and evaluated by us, were the mommies! Who could possible know our children better than we do?
Some children have adverse reactions to sugar and some do not, however experts would like to paint all children with the same broad brush. Teenagers having problems in school is a good example. The first direction the experts seem to like to pursue is Attention Deficit. However a wise individual would first pursue the basics such as: Are their marital problems in the home or some type of alcohol or drug abuse? Is the child fighting thru Identity issues such as sexuality? These are just a few of the possibilities that could be causing children problems and us Mommies and Daddy’s need to make sure everything is being addressed before we push it off on a medical condition. I’m not saying we don’t look at everything; however it seems we live in a society that loves to turn directly to medication to solve a problem! Just watch the evening news and I’m sure you will see what I mean. The drug companies are now pursuing us directly to get us to ask our doctors for their drugs! The government likes to preach “Just Say No to Drugs”, and then they pitch them at every opportunity!
My 16 year old was being tortured by mean girls via email and was heartbroken. She was having some acne issues as we all did but they were extremely mean to her in nature. It was not easy but I found a site that carries Cyber Bully Alerts warning the children to STOP sending these emails as they are being watched and logged and will be prosecuted. We all know what this kind of meanness can lead to with teen suicides and all. I found the cards at hate cards dot net and they did the trick! The torture stopped for Sarah and that was good enough for me. We need to find ways to overcome and adapt to protect our kids.
We can care for runny noses and chapped bottoms, but we must look out for our babies through high school and educate them to think for themselves until they learn too!
Billie
At Home Mom in MN
Al_Pal
Hee. I actually did see that on twitter.
Always good to have beeshes that’ll stick up for one another. Flinger is indeed Teh Awesome.
(and, of course, you & V for championing her.) ;p
Twitter: Al_Pal
Jack
Some people just don’t understand that what they write is available to millions. If you do this for any length of time you have to have a thick skin.
.-= Jack´s last blog ..Daughters Are Different =-.
* TONYA *
Where on earth was I when all of this was going down. You go girl.
.-= * TONYA *´s last blog ..PULL-UPS GIVEAWAY WINNER … =-.
Catherine
Wow… That really was a lot to take in. But you’re right. Some people just don’t think twice before posting.
Jean
I don’t see anything wrong with sticking up for one’s friend. It’s not much different from real life. If someone had an attitude with my friend, I would say something. Lotus, I don’t think you did anything wrong.
With that said, I am a Jesus loving Christian who is Catholic. I also swear like a sailor. God loves me anyway. I was looking at that person’s tweets and take issue with this one “Also leave Jesus out of it! I am the imperfect one, just because I follow Him doesnt mean **POOF** I’m perfect! It is a process.”
“It is a process” implies that someday perfection will occur. Perfection will never happen, nor is it supposed to happen on this earth. No one will ever be perfect like Jesus. Just my opinion, but I think that this world would be a much better place if some Christians concentrated less on what ways everyone is sinning and concentrated more on helping others.
Pocklock
This is so freaking awesome. The next time I piss someone off, I’m calling you to be on my team.
And way to GO for putting it out there. Seriously. I would not have had the balls, but next time I’m borrowing yours.
You rock, Lotus.
.-= Pocklock´s last blog ..My Lyme Disease Story, Part 1 =-.
Ben
See, now this is why I don’t bother with Twitter in the first place.
Social networking would be great if I was actually a social person, I guess…
.-= Ben´s last blog ..Scooby. =-.