He’s more pissed off on a regular basis about things like why he can’t have a million and five cups of apple juice in one day and our infernal, never-ending desire to torture him orally with that weird plastic stick that has bristles, under the guise of “keeping his teeth strong, healthy, and clean!”
But the sunglasses? Meh. He’s so over that.
And I just can’t help myself. I beg that no one gets offended, but I feel like I have to say, as per some comments on yesterday’s post, that Braden actually has not only 2 pair of sunglasses made to actually fit his face, but he has been given another pair of my old sunglasses to delight himself with. So, no worries, he has sunglasses to play with.
I hid the broken pair from him that night (after he tried to wear them with one side broken off and got a bit annoyed when they wouldn’t stay on), and he never even cared. I gave him the replacement pair a day or so later, and he happily put them on and ran around, no questions asked.
They are really manly, too. Silver Leopard Print, Baby. Yeah. (Of course, again, he couldn’t care less.)
Eh… uh… about yesterday’s post… the sunglasses per se really weren’t the main idea I’d intended for the article to focus you on, rather they created a situation that made my mind stretch a little and my emotions warble and dance. I wanted to share with you the little emotional jig that was being performed in my head and my heart… see if maybe you could dance the steps with me.
By the way (*huffs and puffs, theatrically*), I’m pretty good at figuring out how to fix the silly little things that my 2 year old worries about, in a practical way. Gimme a lil bit of credit as a mom, folks, dang. I’m not a TOTAL moron, really! (No, really. STOP LAUGHING BEHIND YOUR HAND. I CAN SEE YOU, DAMNIT.)
And no offense to anyone, cause I adore you guys (you commented, that means you gave a shit, and I adore you), but there is no amount of super glue or duct tape that could hold the metal/plastic together for long enough to withstand even 30 seconds of Two-Year-Old-Boy-Play. Braden can look at things hard enough to break them, sometimes, I swear. So that made me giggle.
So, anyway… I was just making some connections between this little thing and larger emotions and issues… painting a small picture that mirrors a large and complex one in the adult world?
Bah, sometimes a girl just doesn’t get her point across.
I should stick to fart jokes, right?
*poot*
#1 by Ness on February 10, 2009 - 2:04 AM
If it helps…I *totally* got what you were going for. I must be one of the smart ones.
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#2 by Barbara on February 10, 2009 - 3:58 AM
Oops, I’m a bit of a fixate on the obvious and ignore the sub-text kinda girl!
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#3 by Lilacspecs on February 10, 2009 - 7:15 AM
Erm, I thought it was pretty clear and very touching. But hey, I’ve worked with 3 year olds and the ratio of broken stuff:caring about it is like 4000:1.
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#4 by PiaG on February 10, 2009 - 7:23 AM
never fear, I got your point.
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#5 by Shannon on February 10, 2009 - 7:27 AM
The point was clear. People just like to fix things and sunglasses seem an easier thing to tape together than hurting hearts.
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#6 by lceel on February 10, 2009 - 7:55 AM
Some people see the forest. Some people see the trees. It’s what makes each and every one of us different from each and every other one of us. Even though we all tend to get ourselves into similar situations. Even though we all tend to relate to one another’s difficulties by remembering how we handled similar difficulties. Truth is, we are individuals and we all see things just ever so slightly differently than anyone else. Some see the forest. And some see the trees. And then there’s those nitpickers that see each. and. every. in-di-vid-u-al. leaf. me? All I want to see is the RACK!
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#7 by arianne on February 10, 2009 - 9:00 AM
I got the point, but I think the follow-up drives home the counter point – Yep, things get broken. They may not be fixable.
But, oftentimes, something new comes to fill that spot – sometimes that new thing is even more special (Silver leopard print, baby!). Though they won’t ever be the same sunglasses he had, they will still be good.
#8 by SingleParentDad on February 10, 2009 - 9:07 AM
Learning to feel, and learning to lose some things, even tiny things, can figuratively be so huge.
And where’s the option for fart jokes with feeling?
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#9 by Maggie's Mind on February 10, 2009 - 9:27 AM
Yep, I got it. I think. It was never about the sunglasses but it made me think about the day you figure out that someone like mom can’t just magically fix everything and how that’s kind of sucktacular because once that innocence is gone, it doesn’t really come back. (Then some turn to religion. Others turn to coffee. Or both.)
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#10 by Deeg on February 10, 2009 - 9:59 AM
I don’t believe i’ve ever commented on your blog before, despite the fact that i have been reading for well over a year now….but here i go….
I know you have been really struggling to find a way to get through all this heartache life has given you as of late. I don’t think there are any words that anyone is going to say that are going to make that happen any faster either….though i sure wish there were.
I saw your post today and I wondered why you felt the need to explain the previous one…not only because i “got” it (lol) but because-well woman-this is your blog..your thoughts…you don’t need to explain anything to anyone…and looking back on the comments from the previous one I gotta say your intent with that post wasn’t lost I believe. I think people “got” it…but they also ache for you and want so bad to help fix….sometimes we humans think if we gloss over the emotions and settle on the safe approach that we can help move a person in heartache along faster perhaps….i dunno…rambles…its what i do…
anyway lady
it is excellent to see you posting more again…i come to this blog to read your thoughts…good or bad-they are inspiring…it is what we do in our moments of battle that matter xoxox
#11 by Amy @ Milk Breath & Margaritas on February 10, 2009 - 10:26 AM
I totally got ya babe. This is one of the reasons I don’t read other comments on big blogs that get a lot of them. 1 – I don’t have time and 2) the ppl who don’t get it and then I’m all like “the hell?” and wanting to defend you or explain for you myself and stuff.
The post effectively communicated. No worries.
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#12 by breedale on February 10, 2009 - 10:29 AM
I have been reading your blog for a while now but this is the first time I have been brave enough to post. I got your sunglasses metaphor and I really liked it. I wanted to write yesterday and tell you that no matter how sad your posts may have been lately, I still love to read your blog because you are so creative, witty and very intelligent. I have loved your subs, but nothing compares to your style of writing. I have weeped with you throughout your struggle and I can’t tell you how much respect I have for you for opening up to the world as you have done. Your pain and analysis of said pain will enevitably end up helping many others you probably will never know. Although it is hard to see ourselves as brave and strong, you are one of the bravest and strongest. Thank you for sharing what you share and just know the world is out here with you and most of us even get your metaphors!
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#13 by Rhea - Experiencing Motherhood on February 10, 2009 - 10:35 AM
I got it!!
And I’m glad that he has moved on as kids will do. Aren’t they great?
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#14 by Junebug on February 10, 2009 - 10:42 AM
I got your metaphor yesterday even though I commented about the duct tape, I am aware of what you were trying to say. I was just making a light joke. And like DEEG said “sometimes we humans think if we gloss over the emotions and settle on the safe approach”. Sorry for the gloss. Perhaps another thing to be learned from a toddler aside from the magical innocent aspect is the ability to delight in something new so quickly. Not an easy lesson to learn. Some people can see the forest and the trees.
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#15 by perpstu on February 10, 2009 - 10:46 AM
I got your point…but bring on the cutie pie with his sunglasses and the fart jokes anytime!
#16 by Jill on February 10, 2009 - 11:16 AM
Oh I got it… and had to sadly reminisce. For you it’s sunglasses… for us it’s necklaces.
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#17 by Special K on February 10, 2009 - 11:23 AM
I got it too, it was one big very well written metaphor! I also like today’s. I hope that we all can pick up, move on, accept and forget like a cheap pair of broken sunglasses!
#18 by Chris on February 10, 2009 - 12:18 PM
Uh….you said something about painting a picture. I didn’t see a painted picture anywhere. Did you forget to post it.
#19 by SusanB on February 10, 2009 - 2:51 PM
I got the meaning of the first post. I thought it was beautifully written, and something I could identify with in my own way, the hurts a parent can’t fix easily and the ones we worry aren’t fixable, for us and for our children.
However, that said, I have to vote with SingleParentDad…fart jokes with feeling are the way to go!
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#20 by jennielynn on February 10, 2009 - 4:50 PM
I got it. I’m totally smart like that. *preen*
Do NOT slap me. I cry.
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#21 by Kay on February 10, 2009 - 4:57 PM
i got yesterday’s post. In fact, I kinda liked it. A lot.
#22 by Talina on February 10, 2009 - 9:30 PM
Wow you are getting all deep on us, now my head hurts and I am tired…
Why do kids like sunglasses anyway? My niece loves glasses also.
#23 by CheapLady on February 10, 2009 - 11:46 PM
Love the thought of a little cutie in silver leopard print glasses! LOL
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#24 by Cameron on February 11, 2009 - 12:38 AM
We GOT it, we were just offering whatever solution we could from….you know, over her. I think most of us understand the innocence that is….kid-dom.
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#25 by Corey~ living and loving on February 11, 2009 - 1:19 PM
HUGS! I don’t think you were as far off as it felt. looking through the comments on your original post 90% of the commenters really got it.
AS did I! It was a GREAT post! Don’t change a thing….fart jokes are fun…..but this was very meaningful, and beautiful.
WE GET YOU! Don’t worry!
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#26 by Tarasview on February 11, 2009 - 6:11 PM
bwahahahaha… I SOOOO got what you were trying to say
Actually, I just read it 2 minutes ago and it brought tears to my eyes. Then I read this post and laughed. Because you know what? People CONSTANTLY misunderstand me. And it drives me crazy. Because I feel like I must be speaking a freakin foreign language or something. Am I REALLY that hard to understand???
Apparently you are just to poetic for some folks.
love to you dear… and you know what? you’re right. Some things just can’t be fixed. And it sucks.
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#27 by Tranny Head on February 12, 2009 - 10:54 PM
*I* think you got your point across. I frequently get comments like that, though, where people totally miss the point of the post. Usually it’s something like, “maybe he likes his wagon because he can climb out of it” in a post about how my son likes his wagon even though he’s strapped into it … *sigh*
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