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  • I’ve only known you to be sweet, funny, honest and moral. I love ya.

    You coming over for a playdate this week or what?

    ;)

    Alli ~Mrs. Fussypants’s last blog post..Fussy’s Linkapalooza -New & Improved

    April 07, 2008
  • Word.

    Mr Lady’s last blog post..Hey, you promised…

    April 07, 2008
  • Whew… That was a long one.

    But I am 100% with you on that.

    Like Mr Lady says, “word.”

    A Whole Lot of Nothing’s last blog post..Read What YOU Wanna Read

    April 07, 2008
  • I’m glad I haven’t seen any of this hate…because I’m like you…I’d be offended!! And hurt!!

    I just have to stand and applaud to all you’ve said because it’s exactly how I feel!! Good for you!!

    Sadie’s last blog post..DVD Giveaway – Bounce!!

    April 07, 2008
  • Geoff

    Been reading your blog since spotting it on one of the blog award sites. It’s fun to read and if it wasn’t I can go somewhere else instead. The internet is a pretty big place after all. I think you have just been reading comments that proove John Gabriels theory http://www.penny-arcade.com/comic/2004/03/19/

    April 07, 2008
  • I like mommy bloggers. I relate to them (and I’m not even a mommy yet). I also like style blogs and photography blogs and political humor blogs. Why do some people just have a stick up their pooper? Seriously, mommies are the hardest working people in the world. And they are hilarious. There’s always going to be someone to be condescending and rude and small-minded for some inane reason and motherhood is sometimes a popular target.

    Barb’s last blog post..Oh my lawsie goodness sakes!

    April 07, 2008
  • I’m with you. Particularly on the asian porn part. But on a serious note, when I started blogging, I also had no idea that there was this large hub of mommy blogs. I was just doing my thing, because it’s what I needed. It’s still what I need. Additionally, I didn’t even know some of the larger blogs existed. I think it’s shitty when women can’t just support each other in all stations and phases. What good is having a vagina (aside from birthing childrens)if you can’t be happy for and support someone else with a vagina? Vaginas Unite. And speaking of vaginas, what is the latest pubic hair style for the asians at this site you speak of? haha. :)

    amanda’s last blog post..Most Humiliating Baby Names of All Time & Pseudonyms

    April 07, 2008
  • so, you are basically saying you are human?
    i think all people should support each other especially now when the news gives us our daily dose of hopelessness. if someone doesn’t want to read about moms then they should go look up something else. no one is forcing them after all…
    we are choosing to stay home so we can watch our children grow.
    some women can’t or don’t want to and that is a decision only they can make.
    clearly by reading your blogs people can see you are an intelligent and hilarious person who clearly enjoys her place in this world and the people she is withy.
    ever since i found your blog in december of 07 i have not missed a day!

    missy wiggins’s last blog post..i. hate. macs.

    April 07, 2008
  • Oh…F’ em! They are obviously uptight a-holes who’s lives are so shitty that they need to bring down others in order to make themselves look and feel better.

    Any SAHM or SAHD deserves respect in my book. These days it’s hard to live off of one income. Raising a child is a challenge in and of itself. Any family that makes sacrifices for their children’s future are heroes in my book.

    Sure, you could drop the kid off at daycare every day, but you choose to do something more important than that.

    The reason I keep coming back to read your blog is because you are real. You let it all hang out. It’s obvious you are passionate about what you do. Don’t change a thing!

    Jared’s last blog post..The Poop-endectomy

    April 07, 2008
  • I will never understand why people spend hours, days perhaps insulting other people just because they don’t like what these do, instead of just moving along…

    If I don’t like a particular blog, I just don’t go there anymore. Who in hell do I think I am to tell somebody ‘oh, you shouldn’t be posting about this’?

    Unless it’s something illegal, I have no right to say a peep. And I don’t see anything illegal about butts and poop! :-)

    Your blog is great, Lotus, and I love reading it. And I show your pictures, poop and everything, to my wife and kids all the time.

    Don’t change, unless you want to. But especially, don’t change just because of what some intolerant idiots say.q

    Gabriel’s last blog post..Manic Monday #11

    April 07, 2008
  • Jenty

    Hear hear!! Truely, this is your blog, and it’s your form of expression. I personally don’t think there is anything wrong with any of the stuff you’ve posted about.

    If they are THAT offended, why do they keep coming back? ;)

    Jenty’s last blog post..Weekly Winner #13

    April 07, 2008
  • Well said, as usual.

    Lilacspecs’s last blog post..Music Monday – Cats

    April 07, 2008
  • Lotus, you rock my world. My gosh, you hit the nail on the head. I haven’t run into those kind of people…the mommy blog bashers. Now, the homeschool bashers, yeah, that I can relate to.

    However, I kind of put out a “don’t you even open your big mouth” vibe, so I don’t often get comments about anything I do. I breastfed my babies in the middle of the mall on a Saturday…and no one said a word. I pray out loud over my food in the middle of restaurants…no one says a word.

    The blogosphere is such an easy place for bashers to anonymously spread their negativity. When I read such comments, I just think “coward.” I’m learning to have a thick skin.

    Claire in CA, USA’s last blog post..Better grab your favorite beverage…this might take awhile.

    April 07, 2008
  • as long as there are different ways of life there will always be condensending remarks among women. Its unfortunate but true, for some reason many women feel that everyone should do it their way.

    We are women and we are different. I’m okay with that.

    Kara – down to earth mommy’s last blog post..Round 2

    April 07, 2008
  • I’m not a mom, just someone else blogging about this stage of my own life, and I love your blog to bits because it’s fun and honest and creative and colorful and entertaining and generally just fabulous. If I didn’t, tho? Love it I mean? I’d shut up and go read some other blogs that I love without the need to poke at you for doing your thing on, um, last I checked, your own blog. I also would give about 80 mazillion anythings in the whole bloomin’ world to be able to be a mom who also happens to be lucky enough to stay home doing sincerely, not just bullshit lip service, the most important job in the world, and then I would blog my ass off about it every chance I could get (if I could find time – how do you mom-type people find the time? sheesh).

    Mean people suck.

    Maggie’s last blog post..Weekly Winners Sunday 4/6/08

    April 07, 2008
  • I like MommyBloggers. I read them everyday. Yours, Sandy’s, Secret Agent Mama’s. I don’t post comment often since I don’t have anything to say, really. Being a non-mother and all that.

    That is a mean thing to say about other people. Blogsphere is a whole new universe. If you don’t like a particular blog, just steer away. No need to pass judgement.

    I like it that you always tell things as it is.

    Andie Summerkiss’s last blog post..Weekly Winners

    April 07, 2008
  • Taz

    well written.. :)

    Taz’s last blog post..24 weeks old

    April 07, 2008
  • I totally agree with Gabriel, If we don’t like a particular blogger because of the things that he or she is writing about, then let’s not visit that site anymore…plain and simple. And we should not bother commenting anymore, after all, it’s about their lives and not ours, isn’t? Anyway, I am having a great time reading this blog and other blogs that are not shy to tell the world about their families. More power and stay happy!

    merryjazz’s last blog post..My Take On Online Degree Studying

    April 07, 2008
  • Heck, I just love reading your blog because you’re funny. and real, and a breath of fresh air. and smart. oh, and funny.

    Wait, I said that already.

    I don’t get the bashing OR the labeling. I’ve been asked “what is your blog about?” like I’m supposed to be a mommy blogger or a career blogger. None of us is a cookie cutter. We both write about our life.

    Lotus, just keep writing it. I’ll keep reading it. You ROCK.

    Suzanne’s last blog post..The One-Two Punch

    April 07, 2008
  • /cheer!

    I totally get where you’re coming from there… I live in a town where there’s an overload of students (hell, I used to be one of them!). I see the looks – the ‘god how sad, she’s stuck with 2 kids, probably thich as shit’ type of look. SO not me! I wrote a poem about it at some point too.

    At the end of the day though, if people want to THINK those things it’s fine, but in the same way most people wouldn’t say that sort of thing to your face, why on earth do they think it’s appropriate to say in your space on the net? GRR!

    Marylin’s last blog post..Weekly Winners #15

    April 07, 2008
  • Bravo.

    As the mom who is constantly told by my readers “well… you’re not THAT mom”.. I so feel you here. I mean, it’s kind of a different side of the coin – but I’m feeling you.

    No. Really. :-P

    I don’t get the need to get vile.

    This was beautifully written by the way. Bitches. ;-)

    Miss Britt’s last blog post..Fighting Cancer With Fart Jokes

    April 07, 2008
  • Way to go. Definitely behind you on this. sometimes people just like to say things without even a thought about it and the effect it can cause.

    I just did a SHOUT like this 3 days ago and it feels real good.

    Good job lady!

    Angeline’s last blog post..Hives

    April 07, 2008
  • river

    I’ve been away a few days and now I have just this to say: keep on blogging. Ignore those twerps. We all luv ya!! Like you said, if they don’t like what they’re reading, let them move on.

    April 07, 2008
  • Wont you be my neighbor?

    M.

    MizFit’s last blog post..Monday Facetime.

    April 07, 2008
  • This is honest and sensitive and true.
    I’m proud to be a mommyblogger – with kids as great as mine, why not? (Said kids are currently killing each other in the kitchen over cereal, by the way. Must go and break it up)

    I never understood the bashing of MB’s – simply because so many people are at that stage in their lives where they’re raising a child – why wouldn’t you want a commiserating voice?

    daysgoby’s last blog post..creature comfort

    April 07, 2008
  • Wow What a great post.
    I get negative comments sometimes and I get really mad, if you do not like my blog just go away, you do not have to leave a rude comment.
    I do not care what people say about SAHM because I feel like they are jealous and trying to justify why they “have” to work. I am not putting down someone’s right to work but they should not put down my decision to stay home.
    Keep on being a defender of the SAHM. Give ‘em hell.

    jennifer’s last blog post..Pizza Pie Planter

    April 07, 2008
  • Sue

    Very well written. Love it to pieces!

    Sue’s last blog post..High Five! On The Side! Down Low… Too Slow!

    April 07, 2008
  • Alison

    Man you have summed it up all in a nice tidy long post. :)

    Well lets see. I do not blog though I have thought about it. But I am a SAHM, and though my life does revolve around my son I wouldn’t want to have it any other way! Why be at work not being paid much, to just think about my son all day and wonder what he is doing! I get to raise him how I want to raise him, and I get to see all his wonderful milestones, and even have him be attached to me!

    I’m glad you have not looked at the nasty comments about mommy bloggers! No reason to let them see that they are causing harm, best to just ignore them and keep on doing what you are doing! They just want attention I guess.

    So hugs to you Lotus! And just keep on truckin!

    April 07, 2008
  • My opinion on those who make such hateful remarks about us SAHM bloggers? They are working mothers who are jealous and wish they could stay home with their kids. This is just my guess. But who else would be clicking on all of these mommy blogs besides other moms?

    Jealousy comes in many forms. And those working moms would NEVER admit that they were jealous. They probably don’t even realize they are. They just think we’re LAME, and that makes them feel better about the season they’re in.

    Adrienne’s last blog post..Narcissism at its finest

    April 07, 2008
  • The internet is a lovely, lovely thing but it also frees the inner asshole in a large group of people. Do NOT worry about them. Really, many people would dismiss me out of hand when they find out the details of my life: Christian, small town, stay-at-home mom to three? Why, obviously I must be an utter moron! But here’s the thing – I probably wouldn’t like THEM in return, the judgemental fucktards.
    Great, great post, Lotus.

    Beck’s last blog post..My Favorite Person in the Whole World.

    April 07, 2008
  • I don’t know who is talking smack about you but it better stop! It speaks to THEIR character, not yours, that they have nothing better to do than surf blogs and judge people! Seriously. It’s all about them feeling threatened and less than you! You have more fans than you do enemies girl. We all love you, Braden and everything that comes out of Braden!

    AnnD’s last blog post..I’ve been tagged!! My six word memoir.

    April 07, 2008
  • I love you and I could have written this word for word (you know, aside from the bits about what you have done).

    Come live near me and share my chocolate.

    Veronica’s last blog post..An Indoor Pond

    April 07, 2008
  • Last week, my feelings were hurt by a ‘friend’ of ours that said he doesn’t read our kid’s blog because our life is boring. I reacted like any 4 year old and told him he is no longer my friend and he can’t come over to play anymore. LOL!

    I had no idea this bashing was going on. I guess I don’t get around the web as much as I think I do.

    This is the best job I have ever had. I know I am doing the right thing for my family and if someone doesn’t like it, they can suck it.

    I had a shirt made because I got tired of the question asking if I work. It says I AM at Work! And thus the name of my new blog…my new MOMMY blog! LOL!

    Connie’s last blog post..Mommy Does Dallas!

    April 07, 2008
  • I love being a mommy blogger. Couldn’t care less about the label. It’s great being in your 40′s. Totally thickens up the skin.

    clickmom’s last blog post..dear f*** me

    April 07, 2008
  • Law Student Hot Mama

    Amen, sistah! I also wanted to point out I noticed that it’s not just the working peeps who look down on SAHMs, but it’s also the SAHMs who look down on women who work outside the home . . . sometimes accusing working moms of not loving their kids enough or being bad parents for not spending all day every day with them! It’s all a load of shizzle, I say.

    Law Student Hot Mama’s last blog post..Mommy and Me: Indigestion

    April 07, 2008
  • How ironic that I am reading this today. JUST yesterday I was offended about an email ANOTHER friend received about her being a SAHM. It was rude and basically made SAHM’s look like losers. I made it through your entire post, and YOU are right on. Being a SAHM is the hardest job I have ever done and it’s the most important. Braden will thank you for it, mommy!!

    Kelly’s last blog post..Someone needs an attitude adjustment!!

    April 07, 2008
  • Kim

    I think it’s just very hard to conceive of what live as a SAHM or SAHD is like unless you’ve done it. I’ve had good friends say things like, “What do you guys DO all day?” They just can’t imagine it. And before I had my son, neither could I. One friend said a SAHM mutual acquaintaince of ours who has an advanced degree was “a waste” for not putting that degree to use at this particular moment. (As someone who also has an advanced degree, that one stung.) There will always be those who judge what they do not understand. Lotus, you are an amazing example of a SAHM who is also a well-rounded person. I love your photography, your humor, and the inspiring way you attack life’s tough problems. Keep it up!

    April 07, 2008
  • Would it be incredibly loserish of me to just say “ditto”?

    Also, I blogged about hemmorhoids and constipation last week and it was one of my most hit posts – don’t let people fool you, they like the poop talk.

    Sonia’s last blog post..You Wouldn’t Hit a Guy Wearing a Funny Hat, Would You?

    April 07, 2008
  • I think that people who go on the attack like that either can’t feel good about themselves unless they’re putting others down OR they have something to prove and don’t yet get that it’s themselves they have to prove it to. Insecurities can be tricky things that often have us lashing out or building walls, both designed to keep people at bay.

    You don’t do either. You’re open, honest and real. And that’s why I love reading your blog. I didn’t know about ‘mommy blogs’ when I started either. My life revolves around my children so of course my blog does, too. It’s just as natural as the automotive types writing about automotives. Or the political leaners writing about politics.

    Stay true to who you are and don’t let others bring you down for it. Their put downs are a reflection on themselves, not on you.

    noname’s last blog post..Surprises

    April 07, 2008
  • Well I agree and i could care less what anyone thinks of me being a SAHM. it is a sacricifice for my child and why did I have kids if i was gonna let someone else raise him 90% of the time.I have a BS and could have a good job and look forward to the day I do but right now,while he’s little (and will only be this little once) my job is here to raise him! The only reason other people attack something like this is there is something missing inside them or they long to do the same.Screw them!

    April 07, 2008
  • Lindy

    why? because some women are just biotches! I used to post in a expat forum in their pregnancy and parenting section. During a get together for the forum a woman told me I was the reason she stopped reading the p&p section- all my talk of poo. I was really really offended and hurt then I got really pissed off. She doesn’t have any kids, doesn’t want any kids so WHY is she reading the p&p section THEN getting all upset over the poo posts! See some women are just sad nasty biotches that NEED something to complain about.

    As for people not like that I’m a SAHM they can just kiss by BIG WHITE A$$. My blog is for me and if I want to fill it with nothing but pictures of Squidge (which I do) and poo (which I don’t because well she hasn’t poo’d on the floor yet but when she does you KNOW I’l be posting those photos- nice close up ones with the steam rising from the pile!!)

    Anyhoo great post.

    Lindy’s last blog post..Wal the farting…

    April 07, 2008
  • I am not a mother. I don’t have any children to coo over, no poo pictures to post. And yet yours is the blog I skip to when I have nearly a hundred others to read in my Google Reader. I look forward to reading you every day, Lotus, and will take up my pitchfork on your behalf anytime you want me to :)

    A Lil’ Irish Lass’s last blog post..Sometimes The Whole Isn’t Greater Than The Sum Of Its Parts

    April 07, 2008
  • Well, I am not a mommy, but I am a proud daddy. I am proud of my 21 month old son. I am proud of my baby-momma wife. And I am proud that he has never seen the inside of a daycare.

    I don’t look down of daycare or working moms, because you do what life requires of you. I count our family as blessed that I have been able to scrap together enough bread working and doing side-work and whatever I can so that my wife has had the option of not working. It has been hard and we live pretty meagerly. I don’t know how much longer it will last, but it has been great.

    It has been totally worth it. If you can give a single thing in the world that a person can do that is more important than raising their child then I will salute you (and will then point out how, in my opinion, your values are fu$@d up). But then, most of those people are young child-less and will most likely change their opinion as they mature.

    What’s wrong with our society… in a nutshell? I’m glad you asked… my opinion is this… people value money and employment status more highly than family and friends. Community is a primary component in living a fulfilling life. Food and shelter are also important, but that second flatscreen and vacation in Aruba are more really secondary then we seem to realize…. Turn off your TV. Tune out the corporate message to consume. Sell your $25K car and sit in your local park and watch your child play blissfully.

    If my wife’s art history BA or History MA would earn us as much as my computer BA (and useless environment MA) then I would trade places in a heartbeat. Not that I would be able to do what she does, but hell, I would not feel like I was wasting my time.

    Go Moms… raise our children to be happy, healthy, virtuous little people. They will run the world in a few short years.

    sorry for the long comment… I should just post on my own blog.

    Josh’s last blog post..Nature & Food

    April 07, 2008
  • jenny gardiner

    I have just recently discovered the world of mom blogs and I think they’re fabulous. So funny, usually, often poignant, and what a great way for moms to get it out of their system!
    BTW, I linked that poop page and I SWEAR to god it smells like a Diaper Genie in my kitchen now.
    FYI, I have the answer to your diaper rash woes. Get your pediatrician to contact the dermatology department at the University of Virginia–the guy who heads it is Dr. Greer and he has his own little diaper ointment recipe called Greer’s Goop. My pediatrician had him in med school and that’s how I found out about it, years ago when she had like 2nd degree burns on her bottom from diaper rash. This stuff is AMAZING.
    good luck!

    April 07, 2008
  • Two Thumbs Way UP!

    Chris’s last blog post..Back from Away

    April 07, 2008
  • Kim

    I read your blog often and have decided to comment. You go girl!! I’m tired of being treated as a moron, because I am a SAHM. “No you don’t need to speak slowly, or louder, I’m a mom not simple minded.” Maybe all those other people are just jealous that they work for more “stuff” and allow the day orphanage to raise their children.
    Thanks for standing up for the mom who chooses to raise their children.

    April 07, 2008
  • Dang… I wish I had written that!

    You go Girl!

    Saundra in CA’s last blog post..MIXED MARRIAGES: PART 1

    April 07, 2008
  • Your values and choices are f’ed up.

    There, I said it.

    Your values and choices are also excellent.

    Your choices are as f’ed up, or as excellent, as anyone else’s. We make our choices for our own reasons… not because of what others think.

    People don’t like your choices? F*&$ ‘em!

    You do what’s right for you, and your family.

    Gunfighter’s last blog post..A Weekend At Castle Gunfighter

    April 07, 2008
  • That’s why I ask people not to call me a “mommy blogger.” Because I’m NOT a “mommy blogger,” I’m a blogger. Who happens to have children. I also don’t like to be called a SAHM, even though I stay home more than anyone I’ve ever known. IMO calling someone a mommy blogger is like calling someone a “lady lawyer” instead of just a lawyer, or a “female doctor” instead of just a doctor.

    I do tend to avoid blogs of people who only ever talk about their kids and post recipes. My life is all about my kids and recipes, and I’d like to get away from that, ya know? But your blog isn’t like that at all. That’s why so many people like you, you do talk about your son, but you also talk about life in general and photography and such.

    BTW many, many of the “mommy blogs” I come across are actually written by WORKING mothers.

    Memarie Lane’s last blog post..Six Steps to a Sexy Bedroom

    April 07, 2008
  • Kim

    Your blog is my little hide away. I love coming by and visiting because you never know what to expect. I completely and whole heartly agree with what you posted.

    Kim’s last blog post..Helping or Hurting?

    April 07, 2008
  • i struggle with the same thing; why do I care what others think? just the other day my SIL said “I wish I had time to blog” and “some people have too much time on their hands” “but I don’t mean you”…WTH? I have had a meriad of identities and the best I have ever had is mom. i think those that judge us are just insecure with themselves and not comfortable with who we are! keep doing what you are doing!

    ourcrookedtree’s last blog post..Chemo Chronicles-Cycle One Day Two

    April 07, 2008
  • I’m a mommy blogger, also of the SAHM variety. I also have a brain. This stuff offends me, too, because people assume we’re all alike. That we all bake shit all day and ramble incessantly about our kids’ boogers and aversion to veggies. Which, ok, I’ll talk about that stuff while I bake some cookies. BUT, like everyone else, I do my own thing too, and when THAT happens, it’s either over looked or we’re condemned for doing stuff without the kids or kiddo themed conversation. SAHM’s have a rough time winning, it seems. We’re treated as brainless baby making machines. We’re not. We’re all individuals, we all have interests outside the home, and we aren’t uneducated droolers just mindlessly parking the kids in front of TV so we can drink vodka in the afternoon, or over-indulgent whipping posts who wipe up every crumb off the kids’ faces every second of the day. BUT, in the end, it doesn’t matter what anyone says. We all know the score, we all know who we are… and you rock. So, screw ‘em.
    I’m off to wipe my kid’s nose, and have a martini. : )

    Autumn’s last blog post..Ask Me!

    April 07, 2008
  • Susan

    I get that all the time: because I gave up my professional life to stay at home with my kids, my life is a waste.

    You go, girl, and tell the haters to shove their views up their collective arse (Canuck speak for bum). There’s nothing better than sharing every milestone with your kids…your little man is going to grow up knowing that mama cared enough to be with him through thick and thin while he was a tot.

    April 07, 2008
  • SAHMs are missing something valuable by not participating in the workplace. Working moms are missing something by not being able to always be there for their kids. It is an unfortunate truth that there is not an idea solution and that every choice requires some sacrifice. I think a lot of people go overboard trying to defend their particular choice because they are afraid to admit that they are missing something.

    I am a working mom. I love my job and would hate to give it up. I have decided that my working is the best choice for my family in the long run. But I know that I am missing out on a lot, and that makes me sad.

    And I wonder if the people who trash mommy bloggers have children. If they did, they would understand that such an all-consuming love should be talked about and celebrated. It doesn’t mean we don’t have other interests and thoughts.

    This is the first time I have ever commented, but I’ve been lurking for quite a while.

    Steph’s last blog post..Amazing

    April 07, 2008
  • I think in many areas, I have lived in a sterile bubble (though in other areas, I’ve mucked around in the nasty stuff with the best of ‘em), so I haven’t experienced this myself, though I have seen it play out. And the ugliness astounds me.

    There are haters everywhere and for some reason, there are people who believe that being a hater somehow makes you appear more intelligent… enlightened somehow.

    I don’t think it is a mentality that we will ever understand (thankfully)…

    xo to you,
    K

    karla ~ looking towards heaven’s last blog post..Remember

    April 07, 2008
  • Amen. I’m with you all the way, and have written about this umpteen times, but never so eloquently and dead-on as this. Brava, baby!

    Mindy’s last blog post..Home again, home again

    April 07, 2008
  • At 43 being a Mom to my three-year-old and a wife to my husband is my life. I my life! Some would say I have no life outside that. I’m sitting here at 10:50 am with no makeup in torn shorts and a t-shirt. I do what I want when I want. I have the best gig ever!

    At 43 I don’t give a rat’s ass what people think of me or my lifestyle. Some are envious, some are pitying, some are disdainful. Let them. I’ll laugh all the way to the local pool. With my son. In the middle of the day.

    Yeah.

    April 07, 2008
  • In a prior life, I might have looked down my nose a little bit at SAHMs. HA! Ain’t karma a bitch? I have struggled with being okay with “only” being a momma for now. I have struggled to remember that it is a brief period in my life and with the fact that I like it. I guess I have mostly ignored what other people think of my SAHM status or my mommy blogger moniker – I’ve been too self absorbed to care LOL. I’ve finally reached a point where I’m happy with where my life is right now and I’m okay with my choices and I tend to flip off those who disparage it. Because honestly? They probably wouldn’t last a week with only the company of a cranky, teething, beautiful 18 month old.

    Michelle’s last blog post..Where is my Northerner In The South handbook?

    April 07, 2008
  • Nikki

    Great job! You did a great job of expressing yourself and the feelings of many of us. Everyone has their own decision to make about raising kids or not raising kids. Women should just support one another. One day I will be working again outside the home but for now, this is what is best for MY family. Yea! You go, sarcastic mommy!

    April 07, 2008
  • Here’s what I’ve found out about myself and believing it really helps me to stay immune to ignorant assholes who put down SAHMs.

    Raising small children is a very short phase of my life when looking at the grand scheme of the 90+ years I will most likely live. If I spend 10 of those years as a SAHM, I’ve just gone over 10% of my life.

    TEN percent! That’s all. A small drop in a life, no?

    So, I’m at total peace using 10% of my life and devoting it to raising my boys. There will be a life for me when they are bigger. Guaranteed.

    What I think the problem really is is the SAHM-haters can’t find their peace.

    Queen of Shake Shake’s last blog post..Calling Moms of Quirky Kids – I Am Your Personal Katie Couric

    April 07, 2008
  • Can I get an AMEN, sisters?

    I love your blog, and am about to add it to the list of great reads on my own. The great thing about the variety of blogs out there is just that. Variety. People who try to shout down what others are saying, are invariably insecure about what they’re offering. (Yup, that was a little bullies-on-the-playground logic. How appropriate.)

    Keep up the good work!

    TheMama’s last blog post..Parlez-vous Coffee?

    April 07, 2008
  • ImpostorMom

    I would hope that anyone that has ever actually read your blog would have to good sense to know that you are certainly not lacking in wit.

    As for SAHM bloggers being losers, good god I have no idea how y’all even maintain a blog while looking after your kids. There is no way I’d have the time if I didn’t do it while I was at work.

    ImpostorMom’s last blog post..Oh the sickness and the boredom

    April 07, 2008
  • I agree 100% w/everything that you said. Some people have this idea that just because we’re SAHM’s, that we just prop our feet up, flip on the TV, & eat bon-bons all day long. For me, that’s the fartherest from the truth.

    I have daily upkeep of our house in the mornings before Kendall wakes up (maid), financial advisor (bill-payer~just like to dress up the title ;) ) chef, chaffeur, etc. But, the MOST IMPORTANT part of my day is one on one time w/my children. They are only little once & sooner than we wish they are out on their own making their own decisions.

    You know, these people don’t have to read Mommy Blogs~if it bothers them so much, don’t read it & don’t insult those of us that are Mommies & blog! I do have the daily routines that I mentioned above but I am my own person too & have other interests as well. If I styed online 24/7 & neglected my children, then I’d be worried that I have a problem. I do my “Mommy Blogging” when Kendall’s napping or if I have all my other “chores” done in the mornings, I’ll blog before he wakes up. And, occasionally, on a rainy day, if my boys are playing & watching TV, I’ll sneak in a few minutes checking email/checking blogs~but that’s a RARE occurance. I try to save blogging time for when Kendall’s napping & Justin’s @ school.

    I personally love your blog~I’ve only been reading it a few weeks now, but I don’t find anything offensive w/your blog & the pics you post of Braden are just too precious! So, just keep it up & if those people don’t like it, they don’t have to read ;)

    Connie’s last blog post..Weekly Winners #4

    April 07, 2008
  • I get upset too about the Mommy Blogger comments, but I try to just let them roll off my back. Just know that there a whole bunch of us out there who love your blog and want to read about poop!!! :-)

    wright’s last blog post..Sans Bebe

    April 07, 2008
  • Meg

    Go you! I couldn’t agree more! You take beautiful pictures of a beautiful little boy. This is your blog to do what you wish, who cares what others try to say about it? They don’t like they can leave! LOL

    Meg’s last blog post..Welcome!!

    April 07, 2008
  • Carissa

    I’m a working mom and often wish I could be a SAHM. Though I do have to confess that I am scared that I wouldn’t do as good of a job as my Mom and MIL are doing raising my son while I’m at work.

    April 07, 2008
  • I guess bashing home schoolers is outmoded? The bashers have now moved on to the SAHM. What’s next? Perhaps I should blog only the cat box? Give ‘em something to really complain about. Cat owners. ‘Cause I’m one of those too.

    Ah well. I do love you and your blog and your pictures and your rants.

    Mama DB’s last blog post..My girl

    April 07, 2008
  • Lotus, this issue comes up for me every so often too. Not directly, but I’ve noticed in some posts and comments. And it is really sad.

    I’ve always wondered as you do, why we can’t just all support each other’s decisions, whatever they might be. Mommy bloggers/ daddy bloggers, well, “we” just happen to be parents who blog. And what we choose to blog about, and our life choices, are not out there to be critcized. If people don’t like what they’re reading, just move the hell on!! And keep comments to yourself. What is the point of the negative energy? I just don’t get it.

    Asian porn … you’re too funny. You know I love you.

    Karen MEG’s last blog post..Get up … and still standing

    April 07, 2008
  • I have three sons, two of which were schooled at home by my SAHW (Stay At Home Wife), known, affectionately, as SWMBO. I love the fact that she was willing and I was able to provide enough income that we could afford to do that. More importantly, she was glad to be able to do that, and she thrived, as did our boys. She runs our home – she is the rock around which we all anchor ourselves as we go through our lives. I don’t know a better or more complete person than she.

    As far as mommy bloggers go, that’s virtually all I read. You guys keep it interesting and real. The one or two male blogs I read are rather stale and boring by comparison.

    Go Mommy Bloggers!!

    Lou Lohman’s last blog post..busy, busy, busy

    April 07, 2008
  • Like others, I seem to be ignorant of the hating of Mommy Bloggers going on out there. I’m glad because I’d have had to write a smackdown too.

    A blog is a journal. How can you not journal what is going on in your world? And being a mother does take up a lot of our world.

    I don’t understand why it’s so freakin’ hard for people to just click off a page they don’t want to read.

    You keep your posts coming! We love them!

    donna’s last blog post..My Trip to Tulsa in Bullet Points

    April 07, 2008
  • amy

    I have a guy who reads my blog and had said on his that “only the Mommy bloggers have it going on.” So horray for the people who get it!

    I’m a working mom (as you know my friend!) but most of the blogs I read are SAHMs.

    What can be better than stories and pictures of your kids? That’s a HUGE part of my blog! Because it’s one of the hugest parts of me, no matter what else I am.

    You can let this go baby! One thing we all learn from the Internet and blogging is that there are a lot of really wonderful people out there that we wish lived in our neighborhood. And there are a ton of assholes.

    amy’s last blog post..He’s a Yellow Duckie

    April 07, 2008
  • If people who bash mommies claim to NOT be anything like most mommy bloggers, then what in the world ARE they?

    Because I can’t think of any category of any kind that mommy bloggers don’t fit into, including “category-less.”

    We are everything under the sun. Those who bash us see only the poop and vomit and breastfeeding and cloth diapers, but that is only part of what mommies are. Whether the bashers realize it or not, mommies are also women, and women are multi-EVERYTHING.

    I make cookies, sure. I also roof houses and teach college writing. I am licensed to give you a massage, and I can diaper a rapidly-crawling baby without messing up the tape-tabs. I can change the oil in my car and I can bake homemade bread. Etc.

    I wonder how versatile most bashers are? I mean, really?

    Love your post, by the way.

    Mamacita’s last blog post..An Oven Full Of Quotatious Pie

    April 07, 2008
  • Love this, Lotus. Really. Well said.

    This IS just a small percentage of our life. Our outlet is blogging. In ten years we’ll be blogging about homework and gray hairs and even bigger Kevin and Leroys. In twenty years we’ll be blogging about weddings and menopause and dry vah-jay-jays.

    I wonder why one reads a mommyblog if they are so disgusted by it? (Or any other type of blog, for that matter.)

    Jennifer’s last blog post..From Now on We’re Going Old School

    April 07, 2008
  • Lotus, I love you and your blog. This post was brilliant!

    The thing that concerns me most about the whole mommy-bashing thing is that I think it’s a sign of a real problem in our society: we do not value our children enough. I think raising and educating our children is a job worthy of respect. If’ there’s this opinion that people who dedicate themselves to raising children are worthless, what does that say about our children?

    I think a lot of moms, particularly stay-at-home moms, feel like a muted group – no one is listening to us! But blogging is a way for us to connect and have a voice.

    It’s funny to me that people care enough to complain that we have nothing worthwhile to say, but they can’t help but read and make comments.

    Leslie’s last blog post..What’s Your Take On This?

    April 07, 2008
  • Caution

    Saw your comment today at mizfit and laughed for a long time.

    I told my students this term that I blog. The admission was greeted with gagging sounds. Wish I could say that didn’t hurt a bit…

    Caution’s last blog post..Parenting Advice Welcome Here

    April 07, 2008
  • Well Amen. Someone was flamed for talking about baby poo? Blogging is a helluva lot easier than keeping one of those baby books, if someone doesn’t wanna read about baby poo, birth mess, out homeschooling curriculum, my coffee beans, or anything else that might be personal or disturbing, they can skip mine, too.

    Mrs Hannigan- the lady with 6 daughters’s last blog post..I never would have thought of this, but try it.

    April 07, 2008
  • justmylife

    I would have been offended too. I could go out and get a job, my kids are bigger, but I choose to stay at home and be there when my kids get home. I am glad I made this choice.

    If they don’t like Mommy Bloggers, why visit them? And I wonder if they will feel the same when they become one of us! If they feel the same, I pity their children. Being a good mom is one thing, being able to share it so others can learn and laugh, that is another thing.

    You can be a momma and still be a person, I think you do a good job at showing that. Your photography is beautiful. And yes, kids take up a lot of time and that is a big share of your time now, so that is the thing to share.

    All the mommy blogger bashers can kiss my arse, I blog what I feel, and if that is my kids, so be it!

    Let me know when to get out the pitch fork and where to go, I will be there! heh

    justmylife’s last blog post..I am interrupting my facts……

    April 07, 2008
  • Amen sister! I don’t care for the whole SAHM bashing. I think that comes from ignorance and maybe even a little jealousy on their parts. I will blog about what affects me and my life right now today. I chose to stay at home to love, nurture, educate and raise our children. I’m not leaving it up to society to raise my kids, (cause it”s falling down on the job) so I can go out and make more money. They’re missing the big picture, I actually feel sorry for them. Celebrate your choices!

    Marye~’s last blog post..Spirited

    April 07, 2008
  • People who put other people down, with words, are assholes. You are not an asshole, Lotus! That’s why I love you.

    Secret Agent Mama’s last blog post..Random Weekend Bullets

    April 07, 2008
  • Amen sister! This is exactly what the world needs to hear. I agree 110%!

    Melinda’s last blog post..Anxiety confession

    April 07, 2008
  • MP

    If we were at a party and had a name tag..you would have a really long name.
    Lables… we hate them but we use them. Wouldn’t suck though to be a “troll”…to have that much hate in your being to just fling around the internet and talk about people you don’t agree with..seems like a waste of energy.
    I have a million lables too..and ours (yours and mine) are VERY different w/ a couple the same…and I LOVE to read your blog, I disagree w/ some of your thoughts and agree with a bunch..I totally enjoy your pictures and love your sense of humor and honesty.
    To me a mommy blogger is a Mommy that blogs, it doesn’t matter if you work full time, part time, out of the home or just bust your ass raising a child..or are rich and just eat bon bon’s… I’m a step-mommy-wife-fulltime worker blogger..shit…do I new get lables???

    Don’t sweat it…you funny beautiful smart clever silly mommy blogger you…

    MP’s last blog post..I’m snorkling

    April 07, 2008
  • Totally with you on the feeling really sensitive thing; last night I almost had a conniption fit reading comments on a site about breast feeding. They weren’t talking about me, but man they made me mad! Anyway…Weird aside; my younger brother thinks it’s totally funny to go to other people’s blogs and leave derogatory comments. Whether or not he likes what they say. Like a prank phone call. This big loser is a stay at home dad! And I love him..but his decision to do something like that, I just don’t understand. Whatever. I guess I’m glad to know that some people are just like that, so it makes it easier to ignore any abuse that gets tossed around.
    PS. Totally crazy about your blog!

    Alicia’s last blog post..Looking Forward

    April 07, 2008
  • Well that was rather rude…

    ;0)

    I’m joking I swear, don’t kick me in my bits.

    Well said.

    Xbox4NappyRash’s last blog post..Not bad for €10 an hour

    April 07, 2008
  • I love it when you write like this – your “soap box” speeches. You have a tendency to say many things exactly the way I would.

    You forgot to mention another “class” of people – those like myself who would LOVE to be a SAHM but can’t afford to (my hubby will always be paid a civil servant’s wage and until he’s no longer an entry-level lackey to-work I will go). I envy you and other SAHMs like you and your ability to handle the stress of being at home with the kiddos all day, even if it takes millions of blog entries to ease that stress!

    Congrats to you for making it look easy!

    Colleen’s last blog post..Aaaaah…..

    April 07, 2008
  • There are a lot of haters out there that I have discovered who blog only about how awful other people are and how much they hate the others. Let them hate and use all their energy on the hate. Mommy Bloggers (myself included) read other Mommy Blogs to help us get through some things and pick up good information.

    I am happy that you have your blog, but I connect with you about a lot of things and it is nice to know that there are other people out there who have some of the problems/issues/happy times that I do. Keep it up Lotus! :)

    Christie’s last blog post..Weekly Winners!

    April 07, 2008
  • I have yet to run into any of the “mommy-haters” out there, but they should be glad I haven’t. I am totally with you….I am educated and proud to have been at home for the past four years. Now I am ready to go back to work.

    Jacki’s last blog post..Surreal Estate

    April 07, 2008
  • rachel

    Amen. Honestly, I think the internet has made people meaner.

    April 07, 2008
  • What’s the point of ranting against Mommy Blogs or SAHMs? Do they think that the SAHMs of the world will read their angry ramblings, delete their blogs and start sending out resumes? Of course they won’t. And they shouldn’t. We all make our choices in life. Why shouldn’t we share the journey with others?!

    There are some blogs of a certain genre (not mommy blogs) that really annoy me. Know what I did? Unsubscribed. They don’t show up on my Google homepage anymore, so as far as I’m concerned, they no longer exist. Problem solved. No ranting required.

    If you feel something is inappropriate, you can address the blogger directly (and politely!) in an email or a comment. Other than that, if you don’t like it, you don’t have to read it. The end.

    P.S. Don’t worry, Lotus. You’re still on my Google. ;)

    April 07, 2008
  • I’ve been lucky enough so far to not run into that stuff but I’ve read about it on a couple blogs. Keep doing what you want and what makes you happy. One day, Braden will be able to look at all this and get to know who his mommy is. As a person, not just the mommy. That’s why I started up my blog. People who make judgements about how other’s live their lives do so, most often I believe, because they are unahppy with the choices they’ve made in their own lives and it’s much easier to point the finger at someone else than look in the mirror.

    Rock on, babe!

    Sugarplumsmom’s last blog post..Jellies On The Wall

    April 07, 2008
  • Well now… LOL!!! I haven’t run into this hatefulness, thank goodness! But I’ll give a big Amen, Sistah! to all that.

    dcrmom’s last blog post..Things I Never Thought I’d Hear Myself Say

    April 07, 2008
  • I agree 100%. It’s like, if you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all. Jeez. I disagree with stuff all the time on websites, but I just DON’T SAY ANYTHING. It’s really easy.

    RubiaLala’s last blog post..Laid Off Dad

    April 07, 2008
  • Ree

    I am so not even going there. I’m just saying that I love you.

    Ree’s last blog post..The Sweatshop?

    April 07, 2008
  • Hockeyman

    Don’t worry, John Basedow will protect you.

    Hockeyman’s last blog post..Weekend Fun

    April 07, 2008
  • People write about what they know… and if that is your darling babe’s poo, so be it. I love reading your tales and it makes me look forward to the day when I too will be a ‘mommy blogger’ xoxo

    Patsy’s last blog post..TSG Holiday: Friday

    April 07, 2008
  • On a totally different note … I think perhaps you were cruel in a future life! :)

    Ice Cream Scooper
    Weight-Loss Trainer
    Milk-Shake Maker

    So, you scooped the ice cream out to the people to make them little fatties, took their money to help them slim down, and THEN made milk shakes to help them back to their original weight??

    Forget SAHM — this is the crime!! :)

    (Don’t go off on me … just kiddin’ hee hee, ha ha, ho ho)

    Charlotte’s Mommy’s last blog post..Now I don’t need a secretary

    April 07, 2008
  • Uh … not FUTURE life — try PAST life.

    Charlotte’s Mommy’s last blog post..Now I don’t need a secretary

    April 07, 2008
  • I’m just jealous as hell that you ARE a stay at home Mom. Lucky.

    Just Jinny’s last blog post..Hey good looking…whatcha got cooking?

    April 07, 2008
  • When I started my “blog” I’d never even heard that term before. I called it an online Journal…and that is exactly what it is (minus a few memes). I write about my life, past, present and future. That includes my kids. Does that make me a “mommy blogger” just because I’m a mom and sometimes write about my kids? So be it. If people feel the need to box me in and slap a lable on me, whatever. But in my experience, I’ve only ever had 1 regular, er, beeotch commenter. The rest have been friendly and supportive. I try not to let the few bad apples…yadda yadda. ya know. LOL I’m a SAHM too (after being a corporate cog for a bazillion years before the mom gig). But who cares. I’ll write what I want. If “they” don’t like it, they don’t have to read it.

    Becky’s last blog post..TAG: I’m it.

    April 07, 2008
  • Philly

    My childred are 20 and 17. I was a SAHM and loved it !
    When I decided to get a part time job last year, my mother fell ill and well, there went that idea ! I took care of her for till she past, then thought,,,okie dokie, I’m ready again……NOT
    My father is now ill and lives with our family.

    Guess I’m just not cut out for the working world, and that suits me just fine. besides,Pool weather is fast approaching and I need a tan.

    April 07, 2008
  • Ugh. I seriously think that people who are that judgemental never walked a foot in our shoes.

    Jennifer’s last blog post..Another fun Saturday in Toast land

    April 07, 2008
  • Look how many people have commented!!!!! (Over 100!)

    That shows that you are onto a good thing. I read your blog EVERYDAY without fail. I enjoy reading about you being a SAHM, as I will be in the future! It’s relevant…

    Keep up your fantastic work!

    April 07, 2008
  • seriously, people need to chill. your blog is funny and totally interesting to read. screw those mommy-blog-haters. i personally don’t care of some of the other blogs out there myself but i don’t go trash them!

    and the pictures of braden… too cute, nothing gross or sick about them at all!

    are you sure i can’t take them? *wink*

    mah-meeee’s last blog post..poll on formula

    April 07, 2008
  • I love that you just referred to yourself as a “breed” of blogger.

    I think as long as there has been Internets, there has been snark and hate. But there has also been serious serious awesomeness and that’s why I love being online so often. I’m addicted to The Awesomeness.

    Kerri Anne’s last blog post..Wherein Chris Seriously Considers Fleeing To A Deserted Island With No Wireless Connection

    April 07, 2008
  • Kay

    I guess I am a Nana blogger which in some people’s eyes may be better or worse who gives a fig, but anyway, I worry more about people that have children and just talk about anything BUT them. Like their career is all that matters, or their wardrobe.
    Those are the people with serious problems. We are just lovers and we are the kool kidz, not them! :)

    Kay’s last blog post..Update 1:30 pm

    April 07, 2008
  • I absolutely agree! Preach it sister.

    Tara R’s last blog post..Book Review

    April 07, 2008
  • Dang dude. I had the pitchfork all ready to go. Can’t we poke one ignorant bastard with it?

    I read all kinds of blogs – and yeah, lots of them are “mommy blogs.” But I would argue that every damn one of the bloggers in my links list is an amazing PERSON in some fundamental way. Funny, witty, intelligent, compassionate, artistic, caring, you name it.

    If you posted boring ass shit about your kid and family I wouldn’t read it. But you don’t. I don’t really care so much about the subject matter – but coming here makes me think, laugh, reflect, etc. If you come (cum?) at the subject of Asian Porn with as much thoughtfulness I’ll STILL come here and read. It has nothing to do with a label someone is trying to stick on you.

    *Brandishes pitchfork in a menacing way*

    F*** ‘em dude.

    Tasina’s last blog post..Meet my friends

    April 07, 2008
  • I’m glad you got all of that off your chest! Whew!! Now breathe and get back to doing what works for you!!

    If you stopped your life every time someone said something nasty or hateful, sweetie you would have NO life! Just keep it moving! The good thing about life is that we are free to be who we want and do what we want with our lives, so continue being you!

    Peace & Love!

    regina’s last blog post..Blog Of The Week # 8 – Romance

    April 07, 2008
  • What she said.

    Jenni’s last blog post..Catch Up

    April 07, 2008
  • Excellent. I wish I had written the words myself.

    Alison’s last blog post..Friday Fun With Randoms

    April 07, 2008
  • I second Mr. Lady’s “Word”. So that would be word word.

    Tootsie Farklepants’s last blog post..Fistacuffs and Ding-Dong Ditch

    April 07, 2008
  • The one thing we all have in common…we all came from a mom and thank goodness when we can starting adding more commonality to our lives.

    You totally spoke my mind.

    blogversary’s last blog post..all signs point to big and cheap?

    April 07, 2008
  • So, I’m probably the minority here as I do work outside the home, but I’m also a (gasp!) “loser” Mommy Blogger. I’m honestly tired of the whole Mommy Wars – I think they’re total bullshit and I wish everyone would just accept that we all make choices that are best for ourselves and our families. I really don’t think you or I need to defend our choices to random, judgmental strangers.

    Here’s the question I have, though – why do we as women (and I do think it’s a woman thing, not a SAHM or working mother or otherwise, thing) give so much weight to this type of negativity? I know I can get 1000 positive comments, but then 1 shitty thing that’s said will ruin my whole day. Why can’t we focus on the positive comments – look at all the support you have here, girl! – and say screw the haters?

    I guess it goes without saying, I thought this was an excellent post. Many pardons for my probably incoherent ramblings.

    andi’s last blog post..Retail therapy is suddenly less therapeutic

    April 07, 2008
  • I am both a SAMH and I work full time from home. The thing that really drives me nuts about the “trend” of which we speak is WTH – DON’T READ IT if you don’t like the content. Move on. Why is even an issue? Are those people really that pathetic themselves that they get some kind of thrill or whatever on trashing others. Share your opinion, fine. But, why? I also have a food blog which I use as my outlet for me. I am a mother and a wife and a friend and so many more things – just like so many other women out there – since when do we, as a sex – have to be taking sides against each other?

    Holly’s last blog post..Was the Bunny here?

    April 07, 2008
  • Funny (as in interesting) you mentioned privacy issues a bit. That has been on my mind a lot today and I blogged about it today. Also I mentioned on yesterday’s blog how I wanted to be a SAHM and thought for sure people would roast me and everyone (that responded) was supportive and nice and I was shocked.

    janethesane’s last blog post..Blogging and Privacy

    April 07, 2008
  • totally.

    zoeyjane’s last blog post..On This Day, Someone Wonderful Came to Be

    April 07, 2008
  • cj

    fucking brilliant post!

    April 08, 2008
  • Kat

    Wow, I’ve never seen or experienced any of this mommy blogger hate. But you know what I’d do if I saw it? Click away. Its just ridiculous. Some of the most intelligent, able, dedicated, clever, compassionate, and honest women I know are SAHM’s. Some of them have had really remarkable careers. Some work because they want to – but most, in my experience, work because they HAVE to. I truly think we are the lucky ones. I personally feel sorry for moms who have to go to work. I don’t criticize them, I just know that if I had to miss this time with my son I’d hate it, and I feel awfully lucky to be doing the job I’m doing right now.

    I’ve been a professional artist, a realtor, an office manager, an accountant, a business owner…and all that time, what I really wanted to be doing was having babies and raising a family. But that’s me.

    Doesn’t make sense to bash other women for their choices. See, I just consider that to be crazy talk. But hell, those people have the right to talk their crazy talk. I’d just exercise my right not to experience it.

    April 08, 2008
  • Kat

    And I love mommy/daddy blogs! They are funny and wonderful, mostly. I see myself in them, and get to laugh at the things I’m having a hard time with, find out how other parents are dealing with things, feel like I have some company. And I think I’m in good company.

    Raising the next generation is a noble task! It really is.

    Just ignore those assholes, Lotus. They don’t have anything to do with you.

    April 08, 2008
  • Melissa

    Rock the fock on! I. Love. It.

    April 08, 2008
  • Wonderful post!
    I don’t usually comment, and though you have about a zillion to read through before you get to mine, I just thought I’d add my luv to the mix. :-)
    Love your blog!
    Love your thoughts ~ and how well you express them.
    Keep on keepin’ on!
    We will too!
    It’s what we do. Right now.

    April 08, 2008
  • It is not often that I delurk here to comment, but this post was just too good. All I really have to say is BRAVO. You said it perfectly.

    LunaNik’s last blog post..Que Paso a Casa de Luna

    April 08, 2008
  • I’ve not had time to read the comments yet, but I LOVED the post.

    I am a non-mommy blogger. Married almost two years, two cats, two dogs. No kids. No plans for kids.

    I refer to Mommy Bloggers to my husband all the time. I get nary a smirk, rolled eye, questioning glance. He knows I’m talking about a mommy who blogs. Like I’m not a mommy who blogs.

    Yesterday, I read a post from a “mommy blogger” who wondered if she was the only person who wears jeans for days at a time without washing them. Hmmm… I also wear jeans for days at a time without washing them. (I need to respond to that post, by the way.) Yesterday, I read a post from another mommy blogger who was looking for reassurance that she’s not the only person who sometimes — accidentally — sends her kids to school without warm enough outerwear this time of year. Hmmm.. I’ve never sent a child to school without warm enough outerwear, but I certainly have sent MYSELF to work that way. (This time of year is tough, no matter WHERE you live.)

    No, I’ve not experienced childbirth. I’ve not breastfed (or bottlefed) 24/7. But I have helped a young woman learn to breastfeed her child, and I’ve offered assistance many friends in this regard. I have been pooped on. It’s not the same, but, in some small way I can empathize.

    So the “mommy bloggers” and me? We’re pretty much the same.

    After all, I’ll bet you get irritated at your husbands (or boyfriends) when they’re right about something you were SURE you had correct. And I bet you nod your head on occasion when reading a blog post about doing stupid things like putting your retainer in the washing machine by accident. And perhaps you’ll say a silent “Amen!” when reading someone’s good news. (I’ve blogged about all these things this week, probably like thousands of other women.)

    I say all of this makes us human, mama or “not-the-mama.”

    Rebecca’s last blog post..I’ve moved!

    April 08, 2008
  • Well said my bloggy cohort, well said.

    I am a SAHM now myself but wasn’t before child #2 and won’t be forever. Like you said, life is always changing. I wish we could just all understand that everyone is doing the best they can for their family…

    Elaine’s last blog post..Taggin’ Tuesday

    April 08, 2008
  • Alyssa

    What’s the definition of a bully? Oh yeah, someone who belittles other people so he/she can feel better about him/herself.

    What’s the definition of pathetic? Shooting other people, and their personal choices, down because it’s a different choice than the one you made.

    What’s the definition of cowardly? Doing the above anonymously, online.

    The people who think SAHMs are vapid are entitled to their (wrong, stupid, ignorant) opinions. I read your blog because you make me laugh, cry, and think.

    And because Brandon has such a cute tushy!

    Look, I became a SAHM because I wanted to. Then my kids were diagnosed with Autism, and I needed to be there with them, take them to therapy, help them with everyday tasks, etc. I don’t look back, and I don’t regret a single minute of it. It’s WAY more more difficult and REWARDING than playing a leading role onstage, getting a standing ovation, or a good review.

    I applaud working moms, ’cause that’s not easy. I applaud SAHMs because that’s not easy, either. I applaud ALL moms who take care of their kids, whether it’s all day or evenings and weekends.

    April 08, 2008
  • You go girl………………….:)

    April 08, 2008
  • WOW! 125 comments on this! Awesome, chick!

    You are not a Mommy Blogger. I am not a Mommy Blogger. We blog. We have kids.

    We are life bloggers. And fucking funny. (and I feel comfortable swearing this late in the piece cause surely no one else will comment? LMAO)

    Smootches babe

    Kelley’s last blog post..Bouncy castles and idiots at the Psychic festival.

    April 08, 2008
  • Amen. If someone doesn’t appreciate us Mommy Bloggers, they ain’t gotta read us. If the don’t appreciate the love, work, and dedication that goes into being a SAHM, then they can work (but I bet quite a few of their moms didn’t!). In the words of the great philosophers Mick Jagger and Keith Richards, “Hey! You! Get off of my cloud!”
    Rock on.

    ‘cuz I’m the mommy, that’s why’s last blog post..I Fought the Law…

    April 08, 2008
  • It’s ridiculous to ridicule “mommy bloggers.” There’s a reason there are 10 million of us out there. The comments don’t bother me anymore because I think, “Dude, you deal with my son after he hasn’t pooped in a week and we’ll see who runs away screaming like a little girl. Ain’t gonna be me.”

    Lunasea’s last blog post..Last Time I Write About T-Ball, I Promise

    April 08, 2008
  • I work full-time, go to school 3/4 time and am married with a 15-year old daughter. All I can say is, thanks a lot ladies for burning your bras back in the 60′s! Because of this and the feminist movement, here I am about be put into a psychiatric ward because I’m SO DAMN TIRED AND STRESSED OUT!

    Lotus, you are SO lucky to be a SAHM. I envy you like crazy.

    Keep writing and taking those pics…you are awesome and I hope that you completely enjoy this station in your life. He will grow up fast. What a treasure trove of memories you are creating. It’s so awesome….

    Catherine’s last blog post..No Funnies for a Sunday

    April 08, 2008
  • you go girl! tell it like it is!! and…from what i understand, there are more mommy bloggers than any other type…except those who download asian porn!!
    what a fricking awesome post…no wonder you have a kagillion responses on it!!

    April 09, 2008
  • Amen.

    rachel’s last blog post..Thithter Ow-side Fooball

    April 09, 2008
  • I am one of those SAHM Bloggers!!! I feel your pain… I’m so glad you posted this!!! Amen Sista!

    April 09, 2008
  • Word.

    Word.

    Word.

    I think this makes me the fourth “WORD.” Bravo!

    OHmommy’s last blog post..She nose it all….

    April 09, 2008
  • Thank you so much for addressing this issue. I often talk about “mommy wars” and how totally cruel women can be to each other. I love your writing and plan to continue reading!!!

    Therese’s last blog post..All Girls High School

    April 09, 2008
  • BTW-I too am a SAHM who blogs!!!

    Therese’s last blog post..All Girls High School

    April 09, 2008
  • Kate

    just for you lotus… apparently my littlest wanted to make it into the mommy blog about poo hall of fame… his timing could not have been for appropriate… you should do a poo carnival… all mommy/daddy blogger unite and make an entire day of our favorite poo stories! very well, said… why do people feel the need to notify a complete stranger that they loathe them? what is that about? well, I don’t loathe you… you inspire me to keep it real… and post pictures of poo…

    April 09, 2008
  • Angie S.

    Do you hear that? That’s the millions of mommy’s around the world (whether they are SAHM or work outside the home) cheering and clapping and going on like wild-women.

    You my dear have a wonderful way with words and getting your point across. If I had 1/100th of your talent I’d be in heaven. You are fantabulous and I love reading your stuff and getting to know you through it (and of course Mr. Braden too)

    April 10, 2008
  • I am late to this party but can I just say yes, Yes, YES!

    I love, Love, LOVE you!

    Don Mills Diva’s last blog post..Losing the battle

    April 10, 2008
  • HRH

    I am late too, but couldn’t be more supportive. After reading Don Mills Diva’s comment I am thinking the restaurant scene in When Harry Met Sally which really does explain how strongly I agree with you…yes, Yes, YEs, YES….

    HRH’s last blog post..My first give away…

    April 10, 2008
  • Abso-freakin-lutely! I’m so sick of people taking that “tone” – Oh, I’m NOT a MOMMY blogger… with the same sarcasm as if they were talking about being a porn blogger. I’m sick of it. SICK OF IT. I’m a Mom. I blog. I write about my life! Bite my ass if you don’t like it :)

    So thanks for saying what I was feeling :)

    Dawn @ Coming to a Nursery Near You’s last blog post..Come on over and see me some time.

    April 11, 2008
  • Wow. I’m pretty new to your blog – I think I found you through the Haikus last week – and I have to say this is a pretty awesome first post to read. Very glad I found your blog.

    Beth – Total Mom Haircut’s last blog post..What’d he say Wednesday (on Thursday) – Sleep talk

    April 11, 2008
  • When I think of the significance of mothers in our lives and the extent to which they affect us… I think that the mommy blogger is incredibly important.

    Not only to document this private life of mothers (which has been historically neglected) but to also create community for all mothers. To be able to be open and talk about the experience of mothering.

    So! Here’s to you! I am not a mother (she says with a pang in her heart) and i cannot always relate to the experiences of mothers that blog… but your experience is invaluable, as is everything you bring to your childrens’ lives.

    I toast you!

    April 11, 2008
  • I just stumbled across your blog. I love this post. Awesome. I will definitely be back!

    Nikki’s last blog post..My Job

    April 11, 2008
  • KTP

    I’m the same kind of blogging SAHM. And sometimes I feel left out because I have no trolls. Come on, trolls! I’m a fierce mama bear. Just try and mess with me.

    KTP’s last blog post..April 10

    April 11, 2008
  • Great post. I wish I wrote it.

    There’s a blog I used to enjoy reading that I don’t read so much any more because of the mommy blog bashing that goes on there. WTF? The subtitle of my blog is actually a remark in direct response to the whole mommy blog hate-on. I call it “Yet another mommy blog. Nothing new here.” Of course, I’m being sarcastic, but hopefully it will convince all the mommy-blog haters to move on and go somewhere else. Fuck’em all I say…

    Carolyn’s last blog post..a fairy tale about a thoughtful queen and her delightful gift.

    April 12, 2008
  • It’s just the loud ones out there hoisting about their empty weight. It’s always the loud ones that are heard. It’s always the negative that incites. There are millions of us mums out here ready to step up beside you and say, “Take a big bite of my multi-layered ass!” So it is with all asses – being multilayered, that is. It’s just the Loud Asses that are heard.

    Erin’s last blog post..FRIDAY NIGHT UNPLUGGED and HOT!

    April 12, 2008
  • enjoyed that. great, great post!

    chickadee’s last blog post..Spring Cleaning

    April 12, 2008
  • Sing it sistah!

    Kellyology’s last blog post..Weekly Winners

    April 13, 2008
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    April 13, 2008
  • Michelle

    The others are just plain friggin’ jealous that you have a brain, and a blog that gets great traffic and more thank 2 comments on each post…hahaha! That is the truth. Sheer jealousy my dear in pure vixen nature.

    Don’t worry about the other Mommies or Non-mommies out there, stick to your path and be happy you are able to stay home. Those women who say you are missing out on something if you don’t work are wrong…it’s just a job and an income…it’s not your CHILD’S LIFE. Maybe our youth wouldn’t be so messed up if women stayed home with their kids and were more emotionally available to them like you are (I do understand that sometimes you have to work to make ends meet though).

    I must admit that this is why I do not partake much in the Mommy blogger world because I have found some negativity. Whoo! Said enough and will be waitin’ for those who want to cook my head for standing on my podium. Keep it up and don’t back down!

    April 13, 2008
  • Well said!

    BunchaBlueEyedMonkeys’s last blog post..Last Night, I Shipped My Kids Outta the Country!

    April 14, 2008
  • I’ve reclaimed “mommy blogger” as a positive thing. I know that I like reading the stuff other mommies write about, and tere are some really stellar feminist mothers writing out there!

    This is provocative, but, some of us learned as kids that moms who claimed to be able to do it all didn’t do it all well. The mommying was hidden enough that its where they fell apart. I’m a stay at home mom because I made the decision to have these kids. It was a choice. I have a responsibility to them, and frankly, I find parenting fascinating because I’m putting so much thought, creativity, and energy into it.

    What I got from being raised by a 2nd wave feminist was that I could be anything I wanted to be. Right now, I choose to be a mother.

    mud mama’s last blog post..The weather here is always a surprise

    April 14, 2008
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    April 15, 2008
  • BRAVO!!! Well said!! I enjoy reading your blog!

    SabrinaT’s last blog post..Our Day part 2… The long awaited recipe…

    April 17, 2008
  • cassee01

    I think many people are just too judgemental. Everyone is different. Just because some people like being mom’s doesn’t make them less than someone who doesn’t or who is a working mom. To each their own I say!!!

    April 17, 2008
  • holyfuck. I love you. Teh Endz.

    (Move in with me? Hawt SAHMB)

    Mrs. Flinger’s last blog post..Friday Flashback Stories

    April 18, 2008
  • This same idea has really been rolling around in my head lately, and I simply love your take on it. I’ve been trying to decide if I should post an ass whipping or a pleading to the masses….

    Anyway–go girl.

    To Think Is To Create’s last blog post..Stop…Carni Time!

    April 23, 2008
  • I think that sucks. If I’d have I read the “Mommys make me sick and wouldn’t go near one of their blogs with a ten foot pole” comment, I’d might have cried, being way too thin skinned for blogging as I am.
    I linked to your post from Velveteen Mind. I really like your blog.
    I had never even heard of Dooce or Bossy or anyone when I started blogging either. But I respect anyone who can make it work for them. I have a post on the subject too if you want to check it out. http://sometimesdisgruntled.blogspot.com/2008/04/we-interrupt-this-blog.html
    I got a lot of people who said ” great post” or “that’s just how I feel”. I also got called a “biter bitch”, and told that I shouldn’t worry about any of it because “no one cares about mom blogs except pathetic moms with nothing better to look at anyway.”
    I wrote it because I had just found out about the whole mommy blogging phenomena and was truly amazed and intrigued (and frankly a little jealous) of all the hoopla. I had no idea these things caused such a stir.
    Continued good luck with your blog. I’ll be back.

    michellew’s last blog post..The Party’s Over

    May 17, 2008
  • TLC

    As usual, I am the last to the party, I guess. This one, I mean. I was reading Megan’s blog and found the Mommybloggers post where this was linked and knowing you wrote it, I had to read it. Well-said. Really, what is happening online is nothing differerent than what happens at LLL or playgroups, or church. Moms criticize other moms for not making the same choices they make. It is an attempt to justify their own position. Wrong as it is, I think the Interwebs just gives another forum to do the same thing that has been happening for years.

    TLC’s last blog post..To blogher or not to blogher…

    June 17, 2008
  • Thanks for the cool post.

    I am fairly new to the world of blogging and, like you, had no idea all this mommy blog bashing even existed. It’s hard not to talk about your kid’s poops and illnesses and funny words, or any of the other stuff that goes along with being a mom. And if someone can’t understand that, then they probably do not have kids themselves. And they should not be hating on those of us that do, and that choose to stay home in some fashion to be with our children and perform the most important job one can ever do.

    So, in short, ditto.

    Jennifer’s last blog post..Poo Poo This, Poo Poo That

    June 21, 2008
  • yeah so i just posted about poop adn was pretty shameless about it. i’m also eating potato salad ice-cubes because hub set the fridge too cold and its that or bologna, but i will not post about that because nobody cares, even probably you but since you already read it ha!!
    off to read your words about being a mommy and someone else’s (presumably) poop

    britts last blog post..ahem

    July 23, 2008
  • Right on sister! I am not a SAHM or a mommy blogger. I am new to this and just amazed how many people want to bash mommy bloggers. I didn’t even know what a mommy blogger was until a few days ago. I am amused at most blogs I see and appauled by others but I go on reading because it is entertainment. This is your creative outlet so who am I to say what you should write about. I hope I will lose intrest in blogs soon as it is taking up far too much of my time! YOU GO GIRL! YOU ROCK!

    Katherines last blog post..The boat dock

    August 06, 2008
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    August 22, 2008
  • KAT

    Just linked to this post. Sigh. Glad you’re there and communicating, girl. Just wanted you to know that this post just made me feel a whole lot better.
    Love.

    KATs last blog post..Just Another Boring Mommy Blogger

    August 23, 2008
  • I’m the reason Kat linked to you, but if you read my post, I didn’t say I hated Mommy Bloggers. I said I couldn’t stand a particular KIND of Mommy Blogger.

    I just don’t like rude people who act like they know everything and they’re gonna set the record straight for the rest of us dumb ones.

    Is that so wrong, Sarcastic Mom? I said is it?!?

    Black Hockey Jesuss last blog post..Dressing For Church

    August 24, 2008
  • Well said…I know I’m late , but I just joined the game. I didn’t even know what a SAHM was, but have been one for the past 17 years. Good to know theres a name for all the shit I do with 5 kids.

    On a side note, you are very funny, and a great read.

    August 07, 2009

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