I like to be alone. (translation: I am oh-so-screwed.)

I’ve always been happy spending large portions of time by myself.  In fact, I prefer it to being around other people a lot of the time.

I don’t get “bored” from being alone.  Never have.  I can always come up with some way to entertain myself when there is no one else around.  Really.  In fact, I usually don’t get to the majority of things I’d like to do all by myself, there are so many.

There are lots of labels that we try to fit on people who feel this way… “anti-social,” “introverted,” “weirdo.”

The thing is, I’m not all together anti-social, introverted, or weird.

I can be rather social, outgoing, and extroverted.

It’s just that I really enjoy time to myself.  Introspection.  Downtime.  Whatever.

This has been the hardest thing for me about becoming a mother.

I see you nodding.

I am very rarely alone.  Even during those oh-so-special times when you think no one else would even WANT to be around you, as a mother, you often have a guest.

“Why no, I didn’t want to pop a squat alone, why would I want to do that?  Come along, little one, and watch me poop.”

And what of taking showers?  Either you

a. just don’t shower

b. have a munchkin in there with you, or

c. the moment water hits your skin, there is one howling from another room.

They wait until you’re trying to scrape the filth of many days from your skin to have complete breakdowns.  That, or to mortally wound themselves.  They do it on purpose, you realize.

[The parental units must not be allowed to refresh themselves.  This is part of The Plan.  This is part of how they break us down.]

And what if your other half occasionally decides to hang out with the spawn in the morning so you can sleep in a bit?  You can’t get any decent snooze time anyway, because you can hear them carrying on in a loud manner.  At least if you’re in my home.  Where Screamie McGee resides.  There is no waking moment invulnerable to being sporadically punctuated by a shrill report.

The downtime – it’s just not the same anymore, is it, folks?

A trip to the grocery store alone has become almost as enjoyable as only, um… other things should be.

“I’m going to run out and get a few things from Kroger.  I’ll be back soon.”

“Okay.”

Pause.

“I thought you were going to Kroger?  Why are you standing there with that glazed look in your eyes?”

“Oh. Sorry.  Yes.  I was overcome with desire and anticipation at the idea of not being screamed at when I stop the cart to pick something out.”

*wipes drool off lip and gets car keys*

While I absolutely believe it is worth it, and I wouldn’t trade this life for any other - sometimes, I would really like to have time alone again.  Know what I mean?

So, in the face of all this, how do you keep your sanity?  What do you do to find some time alone?

84 comments


  • I hear what you’re saying. But one day our kids will leave home and we won’t know what to do with ourselves…

    But for the record I love going shopping without anyone with me. I can look around and drag my feet and savor the silence (not actual silence, just no familiar screams or hollers).

    missy wiggins’s last blog post..Weekly Winners 6/15-6/21
    Twitter:

    June 23, 2008
  • At the risk of being slammed for electronic babysitting, I have a habit of curling up with a book and cup of coffee after my kiddo has pushed the Rugrats video into the VCR in her room for the thousandth time. I don’t go in there with her, she knows where I am and I’m completely available to her if she wants or needs me. But on some level, I’m completely ignoring her and it’s good downtime for both of us.

    Zoeyjane’s last blog post..Reverse Course

    June 23, 2008
  • oh mercy girl, I hear you!!! I was nodding my head the whole way through.

    Sadly I have absolutely no answers. I haven’t been alone in 6 years as far as I can tell.

    But if you figure out a good answer please do tell.

    I must say though I almost miss the days when I only had ONE kid in the bathroom with me while I pee. Now I have three. You’d think they would stop eventually… and I assume they will… and someday I will be able to LOCK the bathroom door and not worry about someone needing to pee RIGHT NOW or someone banging on the door sobbing to come in. I fully plan on taking excessively long showers BY MYSELF someday (I figure I have saved so much water over the past 6 years by showering sporadically at best that I can waste a bit for my sanity).

    Tara R’s last blog post..Children’s ministry rant

    June 23, 2008
  • This IS the hardest thing about being a mother. The lack of alone time. Time to breathe. I’m always saying how pitiful it is that I get excited about going to the grocery store alone. Then when I get there I tend to drift off and take twice the time…because I’m SO tired!

    JCK’s last blog post..In which she appears to be judgemental and she is

    June 23, 2008
  • I, like you, really need my alone time. I have it worked out with my husband that I get to go out by myself one night at least every one or two weeks. I usually go and maybe have dinner or a snack and read a book, or go to a movie. This time to myself is VITAL to my staying sane, and my husband is nice enough to understand that. Lately, he’s started taking a little alone time too, and we’re looking for a babysitter so we can start having regular date nights as not to lose track of ourselves as a couple. It can be hard if your husband isn’t so cooperative, like some of my friends husbands. I got lucky in that area!

    Rachael’s last blog post..I Am Haunted
    Twitter:

    June 23, 2008
  • It gets easier as they get older. My oldest is 14, my youngest is 6. My middle is 9. I can actually shower! alone! Of course, bathroom still necessitates pounding on the door instead of waiting, but at least they aren’t IN the room with me.

    Dh watches the kids while I take a drive, or get coffee or whatever. Today, I napped. Alone. Heaven. And I am going to blogher in July. FOUR days. ALONE. My main alone time is after they are in bed. It’s the reason that I stay up until at 2 a.m. Downtime.

    They grow so fast….but at the time it doesn’t seem like it!

    T.

    TLC’s last blog post..The Agony of The Feet

    June 23, 2008
  • The other day my friend came over to play with my kid and so he wouldn’t keep screaming for me, I took the opportunity to go to the grocery store. When I came back I thanked her profusely for allowing me an hour and a half of pure and total alone time. She (a mother of an 18 year old) let me know that it was not truly alone time and that I needed to work on that. Sadly, I get my alone time when everyone else is asleep. It’s become a joke among my friends that all my emails are sent at 1 a.m. I go to sleep later and later in the hopes that if I don’t sleep, tomorrow won’t come. Denial? Oh, yeah.

    Saltgirl’s last blog post..It’s cute in a puppy

    June 23, 2008
  • Never before parenthood did running to the store for cat litter have such a delicious feel to it. Moments without the kids Velcroed onto me. Ahhh, bliss. Not that I don’t absolutely adore them, but me-time is a must. Which is why I’m up at 1:30 in the morning blogging, reading, and checking my email. It’s sleep or sanity, I choose the latter.

    Summer’s last blog post..Save My Shirt

    June 23, 2008
  • Its called pre-school. Few hours in the mornings. Gives the kid time to be with his own kind, other short people who want to run in circles and stuff. He loves it. Gives the mama time to write, go to the bank, unload the dishwasher without “help”… I highly recommend pre-school.

    Kat’s last blog post..Weekly Winners

    June 23, 2008
  • Denise

    What do you do to find some time alone?

    seriously? you wait about 10 years. ;)

    June 23, 2008
  • hmm..

    i get alone time when Maddi has her nap or when she goes to bed at night i unwind for a bit..

    then head to bed..

    thank goodness she sleeps in.. :)

    Taz’s last blog post..Maddi, Mummy and Auntie Tab

    June 23, 2008
  • Hmmmm….alone time? I sneak off in the middle of the night while they are sleeping to sit on my patio with my laptop and enjoy my internet time while completely ignoring my very tired brain telling me to go to sleep.
    Like right now!

    shannymar’s last blog post..Bad Blogger!

    June 23, 2008
  • Oh I miss alone time… I love it, although it’s a VERY rare occurence these days.

    I try to persuade J to take out the boys for an hour or so to the park once a week, although it usually ends up being all of 30 minutes, and more like once every 2-3 weeks… but at least it’s something, even if I do just get on with laundry or whatever, I’ve not got someone “helping” me! ;)

    Marylin’s last blog post..Weekly Winners #25

    June 23, 2008
  • river

    I must have had Odd kids. Even with 4 of them I still had plenty of alone time. NOW is the problem. Second hubby is very needy and he is ALWAYS THERE. Payback for the easy kid years I guess.

    June 23, 2008
  • Alone…alone…I don’t remember that time. I do get to drive to my shrink alone and back (she has politely requested that I not bring the kids…wonder why?) Hubs on the other hand must get some time to himself (read: at least 3 consecutive hours with no one else in the house) at least every other month…that sounds fair, right?
    BTW to those of you waiting to be able to pee alone, my mother reports that when we finally got old enough to leave her in peace, the cat would come in and try to get up in her lap. Mine already does this. Nothing like trying to keep a 2 year old from unspooling a whole role of TP with a 15 lb calico in your lap (complete with claws). He also likes d3eoderant, any kind of spray cologne, shaving cream, and chap stick…makes potty training him look a bit daunting. How will he ever notice the potty?

    ‘cuz I’m the mommy, that’s why’s last blog post..Whatever…

    June 23, 2008
  • I am very lucky. When I really need alone time, I can walk out of my house (leaving the grumpy screamy one with her father) and walk far enough away from the house that I can’t hear her.

    I also get to be alone during naptime too though, so my sanity probably isn’t as stretched as yours.

    Veronica’s last blog post..Bigger and Bigger

    June 23, 2008
  • Downtime, I believe, is why God invented a Nintendo Wii.

    Manager Mom’s last blog post..To My No Longer A First Grader

    June 23, 2008
  • Veronica Mitchell

    I get up at 6 am, but don’t let the kids get out of bed until 7 am. It makes a HUGE difference in my day. I miss the sleep, but I have more patience and affection for the little monsters.

    When the new baby comes, of course, I will lose that precious hour to myself. I’m not sure how I will function without it.

    Veronica Mitchell’s last blog post..On Behalf of the Comma

    June 23, 2008
  • Unfortunately I have too much time alone. CB works an 8 hour day. I only have class for 3, plus maybe an hour back and forth with the bike. I do definitely enjoy a lot of alone time…moreso I think, than most people, but with no job, no real friends around and a boyfriend that works full time I end up playing on the computer, reading blogs, studying Dutch and grocery shoipping. But I’m not depressed…really…

    lilacspecs’s last blog post..Music Monday – Music From The Lowlands Part Deux

    June 23, 2008
  • I really don’t have any alone time, during the day, especially since we moved back down to GA. At night, after the kids are in bed, is when I really have time to myself. But, by that time, all I want to do is go to sleep. Catch 22?

    Secret Agent Mama’s last blog post..Weekly Winners XXXII

    June 23, 2008
  • Holy crap. It must be in the air.

    I went food shopping yesterday alone because I needed to be A. Lone.

    Then before I went food shopping. I sat in my car three blocks away from my house….for a half an hour.

    ~JJ!’s last blog post..Whine ‘ku

    June 23, 2008
  • Ahhh, solitary bliss! Glad you got a little alone time!

    wright’s last blog post..Haiku Friday – Big Plans

    June 23, 2008
  • I know exactly what you are talking about. Amen, sister! I love my alone time, although when I do get it…I sometimes wander around the house wondering what to do with myself. Then 5 minutes later I am engrossed in a good book.

    Jacki’s last blog post..Panty Problems

    June 23, 2008
  • My 6 year old is starting to spend more time with his friends…so my alone time is slowly starting to come back. It’s hard to be clung on all day, but it does get better!

    LifeAsIKnowIt’s last blog post..Life’s First Ever GIVE AWAY

    June 23, 2008
  • I find myself back in this situation, even though my boys are 17 and 13.
    My youngest son has been off school for almost two years with chronic fatigue.
    Even though he’s not even remotely interested in coming into the toilet with me any more, he’s still home with me all day every day – I’m surprised he’s not sick of me yet!

    This time will pass very quickly I assure you – even if it doesn’t seem like it now,

    G
    xx

    myst’s last blog post..Car Yards & Being Irresponsible!

    June 23, 2008
  • katia

    For now I get about 2 1/2 hrs of alone time after I get home from work before the kids and hubs come home. This however will all end in about 6 weeks… sniff sob.

    katia’s last blog post..new home

    June 23, 2008
  • I dont
    but as mama to ONE who is also DONE AT ONE I cling to the fact this wont last forever.

    Im you

    I HEART my alone time even though I love frolicking with the girlfriends.

    it’s a balance which maketh me the MizFit I long to be.

    MizFit’s last blog post..Monday Facetime (why yes, my hair IS still wet from the shower. that’s the way I roll.)

    June 23, 2008
  • I just tell them to leave me the “H” alone or I will make their day miserable. My daughter is 10yrs old though and she knows that if she bothers my time in the bathroom either dropping my contents or showering I will make her clean the toliets. I threaten my husband with sex.

    However, the brats sometimes don’t listen and I love when they come in and shut the hot water off on me. There is certainly hell to pay then.

    Krissy’s last blog post..Friends.

    June 23, 2008
  • This is going to sound cliched…but honeslty – we pay my hubby’s high school aged sister to come over every Tuesday afternoon and I take a yoga class with two friends. Its the guaranteed peace I need (+ stretching and strengthening exercises at a pace I can still handle at 30). Everybody wins.

    Colleen’s last blog post..Perspective
    Twitter:

    June 23, 2008
  • Generally, I don’t get alone time. I used to get alone time by driving to the office for a whole 7 minutes. Now, though, the walk across the hall only takes 7 seconds.

    So I’m never, ever alone.

    But I’m not bitter; nor am I losing my mind.hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.

    Ree’s last blog post..RIP Scott Kalitta

    June 23, 2008
  • does taking an extra long time sorting laundry in the basement while the kids are eating lunch (and therefore too busy to notice that I’ve escaped them) count as alone time?

    Christina W.’s last blog post..The Trouble with Tribbles, I mean Technorati

    June 23, 2008
  • Re: the anti-social, introverted, or weird label and the desire to be social, outgoing, and extroverted….

    I think those of us that feel that way do so because society makes us feel that it (not being social, etc.) is a problem. It’s not. Everyone else has the problem of being too social, outgoing, and extroverted. I mean I want to say, “shut up already…isn’t the sound of your own voice babbling on all the time exhausting?”

    On being alone with three kids, two pets, husband, etc…I have recently started getting up at 5 AM to garden. It’s so quiet. I think about so much and ‘clean house’ mentally before everyone gets up.

    Janet’s last blog post..Gross out Friday

    June 23, 2008
  • I don’t have this problem anymore. Let me see if I can remember? Ah, yes. What did I do? Well, when they get a little older you can enjoy the bathroom to yourself. I had a couple of Grandmas close so I got some relief that way. Late at night after they’re asleep is the other time. You get very little sleep this way though. But they do grow up all too soon. You keep that in mind! :D

    Junebug’s last blog post..Drummond Home

    June 23, 2008
  • The loss of alone time is bad, but what bothers me the most is the constant touching. I am not a touchy person, but someone in this house is holding, pulling, pushing, grabbing some part of my body almost 24/7. It is very overwhelming at times. And often I just have to lock myself in a room where all I contend with is the banging and screaming and clamoring to touch me from the other side of the door. Can I come with you to Kroger? I promise I will be very quiet as long as you don’t touch me.

    HRH’s last blog post..Monday Potluck: cue the cowbell…

    June 23, 2008
  • Noggin.
    Nickelodeon.
    Disney.
    DVDs.
    Computer.
    Girls LOVE electronic babysitters.
    Mama LOVES electronic babysitters.

    A Whole Lot of Nothing’s last blog post..Oh, Jeez – Now I’m a Videoblogger

    June 23, 2008
  • I wait until my husband and son are in bed and I go to a 24 hour superstore. Most of the time I don’t buy anything, but I wander around looking at stuff and revel in my “freedom”. I pay for it the next day with tiredness, but I can always hang in there until nap time.

    Kecia’s last blog post..Get a spatula

    June 23, 2008
  • I covet alone time. I don’t get much but I dream about it. My hubby tries to let me sleep in with the same results you apparently have – they carry on loudly (and very cutely) and I am awake. But sometimes I stay in bed with a book for 1/2 an hour just to get a few minutes alone. Unfortunately my answer to alone time is often to stay up too late after the little one is in bed. Then I am tired and grumpy and don’t want to be the mommy in the morning.

    Michelle’s last blog post..Social Crutch

    June 23, 2008
  • That is so me too. I NEED my alone time…but never seem to get it anymore..not even in the bathroom. That said, I almost enjoy going to the gyno and dentist. Sure, pap smear? Take your time. Root canal…YEA!!

    Mrs. Schmitty’s last blog post..Forget The Zohan….You Don’t Mess With Mrs. Schmitty!

    June 23, 2008
  • I have been known to lock myself in the bathroom and ignore the screaming….as long as it’s not blood curdling.

    I have also been known to literally hand my children to my husband as he walks through the door at the end of the day and as I walk out.

    And, yes, I have taken to electronic babysitting. It’s not always good but sometimes it’s needed.

    Alison’s last blog post..I belong to me

    June 23, 2008
  • How do I keep my sanity? Naptime. A lot of moms give up on naps around the age of two. Not me, my five year old still takes naps, as does his 2.5 year old sister, and since I’m homeschooling they will continue to take afternoon naps until they’re 18. I don’t know why other moms give in on the nap this so readily.

    Memarie Lane’s last blog post..We don’t need no water!

    June 23, 2008
  • One day soon, they’ll be independent, and you’re by yourself again. Then the “loneliness” sinks in :(
    Actually, you’ll welcome the break, and cherish the moments they’re with you more, until they cop an attitude and you’re ready to strangle them all over again :)

    Sarah’s last blog post..Weekly Plans: June 23rd through June 29th
    Twitter:

    June 23, 2008
  • This is a new thing I’m trying:

    I close the bathroom door.

    I’m totally serious.

    Miss Britt’s last blog post..Tequila Tales Are Never Told

    June 23, 2008
  • I leave town. Literally. I’m going tomorrow.

    witchypoo’s last blog post..Happy Trails

    June 23, 2008
  • No kidding! What I wouldn’t give to take a poop by myself.

    Just wait until your little one is in school, and the other moms invite you to every Tupperware party known to man, every Joicus party (like Tupperware, but expensive toys instead)…I just love saying no to those. Soon you’re labeled as shy…introverted…when in reality, you just don’t give a crap. If you’re like me, that is. I don’t give a crap.

    Susan’s last blog post..pics

    June 23, 2008
  • I can raise my hand really really high to show that I would LOVE some alone time as well. With school out I have my three screaming (wonderful) crazy kids home and I never get any piece and quiet. I did the SAHM thing for years and years with all of them…when my youngest went off to school I got spoiled…and so summers are really…really hard. Even though they are almost old enough to really take care of themselves…I can’t escape the yell of, “MOM”…”MOM” and yes it’s always just as I’m closing the bathroom door…AWWWW!

    Heather’s last blog post..“Glow” much fun…

    June 23, 2008
  • unfortunately you gotta just suck it up for another 8-10 years. Mine are 10, 12, 14 and we are finally having moments, even nights of peace. It’s wonderful. (not that I want the kids grown and gone, but I do look forward to evenings alone).

    Terri’s last blog post..owwie

    June 23, 2008
  • This reminds me of when my friends and I would all drive to Blockbuster just to return a movie. We lived in the smallest town possible for a year and only 1 of us had a car. I tagged along to town whenever possible. That’s when I found out I was big city kind of gal.

    June 23, 2008
  • Just wait until the spawn is a teen and you beg for 10 minutes of together time!

    :~)

    Cassandra Rae’s last blog post..Living Beauty: Can you see it?

    June 23, 2008
  • melanie

    I have plenty of alone time. My kids have gotten to the age that they would rather chew off their arms than be seen with me. So I knit alot.

    June 23, 2008
  • You have obviously hit a nerve here, huh?

    I didn’t even get married until I was 40, so I hear you on the downtime, introspction… whatever.

    I get to be alone at work (well lunch time anyway). Plus, when it’s getting really bad, my hubby lets me cut the grass. A couple of hours in nature is usually the ticket. It’s heard to hear anything but your own thoughts while you are on a riding lawn mower.

    ~Sheryl’s last blog post..Happy Birthday, Baby.

    June 23, 2008
  • Alone? What is this “alone” you speak of?

    I recently doled out a hug mid-poop. Why yes, *grunt* I’d be happy to *splash* give you a hug, sweetie. Let’s not wait, let’s hug RIGHT NOW.

    Meh, sometimes alone is overrated. I’d much rather have hugs and snuggles even when they’re inconveniently timed.

    Erin’s last blog post..Kiddie pictures

    June 23, 2008
  • How I get alone time? I work. Seriously, I’m right there with you, at work is the only time I’m not carrying a little bugger around or changing a poopy diaper. I’m glad to hear your kids spend time with you in the bathroom too, I was beginning to think it was an oddity only my kids enjoyed.

    Diane’s last blog post..This is so gross, but I have to share anyway

    June 23, 2008
  • My favorite is when I meet someone who has just sent their last one off to college and they say to me, “Enjoy this time because it will be over before you know it.” I just want to reach out and slap the…
    anyway, I also go to Kroger– sometimes just for fun. And I go to the post office, the chiropractor, the dentist, the gyno…anything for just 30 minutes of being able to experience my own brain working not to appease someone else. :)

    June 23, 2008
  • I didn’t realize someone else had also listed dentist and gyno…how sick is that?

    June 23, 2008
  • Blessed Silence…what is that and will I ever know it again?! My child has just found her lungs and is screaming at the top of her lungs. At least she is happy….for now.

    June 23, 2008
  • You can always come run away with me and we can be alone together.

    lceel’s last blog post..Sunday Fill – in pictures
    Twitter:

    June 23, 2008
  • Oh my gosh, you speak the truth. It is absolutely the most difficult part of being a parent. You never have any space to yourself.

    I am really trying to teach my girls the concept of privacy right now, so I can at least tinkle by myself.

    The thing is, even when I do get some alone time by leaving the kids with the hubby or grandparents, I fret about the children. So there is never true relaxtion.

    And the whole napping while Dad watches the kids is a total joke.

    Jennifer’s last blog post..I’m Freakin’ Out, Man

    June 23, 2008
  • I have the luxury of being a grandma these days, albeit more full time than most, but I get Mon through Wed. And I cherish every second of it!

    Kay’s last blog post..Bento Box Entry

    June 23, 2008
  • The shower thing is my dilema and what about when he can crawl out of the pack n play-then whatta I do?

    June 23, 2008
  • I find myself wanting more alone time as I age. Whether this is from maturity or just getting the crap beaten out of my soul as I age remains to be seen.

    I have been with kids non-stop for forever, so I left for 2 days of “Alone time” and my car blew up and I am now stuck with a $900 repair bill and am bunking at a bloggity friend’s house and sleeping on a wood floor for the next three days so be careful what you wish for!

    Loralee’s last blog post..The road less traveled? (Somehow I really don’t think that this is what Frost had in mind.)

    June 23, 2008
  • To get alone time .. what do I do ?? umm.. my oldest is almost 14 and my youngest is almost 7 .. Im STILL trying to figure out how to get alone time.

    Madness’s last blog post..BingePurge

    June 23, 2008
  • I have tons of quite time since I have failed at getting preggo and making babies… but I want them oh so bad!

    Someday I enjoy not having any time to myself, but till then I’ll stick my tongue out at you and enjoy my luxury I guess…
    :-P

    Talina’s last blog post..RV shopping and contemplation…
    Twitter:

    June 23, 2008
  • I HATE to be alone! You will have to put up a list of things to do alone so I can learn.

    June 23, 2008
  • Grocery shopping with the kids is the worst! We would hire a sitter and go to the grocery store as a date!

    June 23, 2008
  • I haven’t read all the comments, so I may be in the minority here, but I work 30 hours a week and 22 of those are in the office…my SWEET LOVELY office with windows and a door. My door! I can close it if I want! Hallelujah!

    That is one of the reasons I enjoy working. It gives me just enough of a taste of being alone and having some separateness from mommy time. Plus we have our health insurance through my company.

    Now as far as some mama alone time I enjoy the rare trip to Target by myself or just to a bookstore or the library (free- bonus!) for a few minutes. And the grocery solo? Pure bliss but it rarely happens since I can’t usually manage a big grocery haul on my lunch break. I remember the first time I went to Kroger by myself after Caitlin was born…It was freaking glorious!

    Lately I’ve tried to drag my sorry butt out of bed around 6 and walk by myself in the neighborhood. That’s nice, too.

    OK I’ll shutup now. :)

    June 23, 2008
  • When my kids were small and my husband was home I would lock myself in the bathroom. Believe it or not I had my own set of crayons and a coloring book and I would actually sit on the floor and color! It was therapy for me for some reason! And I’m sure you heard before that you wil miss these days and that is absolutely true!!

    Jeanette’s last blog post..Weekly Winners

    June 23, 2008
  • My alone time? I keep myself awake an extra 15 minutes after getting up with my son in the middle of the night. That’s the only alone time I ever get…

    MamaWise’s last blog post..Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire

    June 23, 2008
  • Tranny Head

    Aww … hunny … you think I’m sane? *snort*

    Tranny Head’s last blog post..A Complaint About Realtors & Trantastic Wineries!

    June 23, 2008
  • The kids are now at the ages that I can shower alone and even pee alone. It is the 2 dogs and the cat that won’t leave me alone to pee. The other day I was trying to use the bathroom and if only I had a camera so you could see the view I saw. The cat was sitting on the side of the tub. The puppy was laying at my feet and the other dog was sitting just outside the bathroom door. They are worse than the kids.

    As far as time alone I do get out at least once a month for a Mom’s Night Out. And all of my kids are in school now so my days are quiet.

    Stacy’s last blog post..Cardboard Testimonies

    June 23, 2008
  • justmylife

    They grow up! I have 2 sets of kids 22 and 18 year olds and an 8 year old. I almost can go to the bathroom without company now!!! And a shower, almost all alone. Just wait, you will miss it…….NOT!!!!

    justmylife’s last blog post..Early to bed, early to rise….

    June 23, 2008
  • 4 words. Duct tape and Benadryl.

    The Apron Queen’s last blog post..The Week In Review…

    June 23, 2008
  • That is the ultimate question that you pose at the end of your post. I lock myself in my room and fold laundry sometimes while my husband watches the kids. That way I can be alone, watch television that’s not G-rated, and I am doing something productive (so I don’t feel guilty).

    Karen of Sillymonkeez’s last blog post..Silly Monkey Stories: “That’ll Show Her!”

    June 23, 2008
  • Anna

    Hell, I can’t even remember the last alone time I got….sad,sad,sad. But I use bath time for mama time. While Taylor plays I’ll flip through a magazine, pluck my eyebrows, actually put on all my makeup or straighten my hair.

    And sleeping in? Or taking a nap….unless they are outside where I can’t hear them it pointless. Plus I usually spend a least half that time thinking of all the wonderful things I could do by myself and waste it.

    Anna’s last blog post..What The F?

    June 24, 2008
  • There are many times when I also enjoy being ‘alone.’ As I am at the moment, some thousand miles south of my wife and two of my children. And then, there are many times during the year and a half I have been down here on the Mississippi Gulf Coast, that I do not like being along. Especially those times when I miss my family, and friends in the north. One has to take the bad with the good…

    Coast Rat’s last blog post..HARBOR LUNCH IN ‘THE PASS’

    June 24, 2008
  • When my daughter was a small-one she would sense if I awoke early and be right in there in the bed before I could get up. However, she went to bed and was out for the count starting at about 2 weeks of age. I could stay up as long as I wanted, do whatever I liked, and she would not stir. This started my life as a night-owl.

    Also, from a very young age, she has also enjoyed time alone. I didn’t realize how wonderful this was until I had grandchildren. Whereas their mother would entertain herself for long stretches and not get into trouble, these children cannot entertain themselves without the aid of a computer or a tv or a sibling who will fight and yell with/at them.

    I mourned the loss of more than one pregnancy and raised my daughter as an only. I understand what you are experiencing. Sometimes now I realize that God knew what He was doing when He gave me just one child. It worked out well for us.

    Eve’s last blog post..Ruby Tuesday

    June 24, 2008
  • I feel you. … for us it is early bedtimes and mommy stays up late on the computer/ reading/ whatevering. Otherwise…. This will pass. As they get older, they need us less. ANd then… we will miss it! Well, maybe not the viewing of the pooping part. But you get my point.

    Tracy D’s last blog post..My past in a cloud….

    June 24, 2008
  • I make my husband take the kids out of the house to be gone a minimum of an entire afternoon at least once a month. Or I go to a grownup movie–alone. I’m like you. I love people. But I have to have time alone in my house doing nothing or I lose my mind. And yes for me, that was the hardest part about having a kid.

    Kellyology’s last blog post..Wordless Wednesday – Time to Vote!

    June 25, 2008
  • When do I find time to be alone?

    I run.

    I schedule it.

    Today I went so far as to hire a neighbor girl to watch the three so I could run for an hour.

    Can I say, though, it will get better. I know you know that, and other people say it – but it will. Get better, that is.

    My youngest is three (four in two weeks – the other two are 6 and 8) and the incessant need to be ‘in my shit’ has lessened significantly. Significantly. Yes, there are days I have my running shoes on before my husband even gets home. There are days that they’re stuck to me like velcro. Most days? They can keep themselves entertained for hours. Hours. I’m home, feeding them and making sure no one gets hurt.

    Heck, now I can tell them, “I’m going to take a shower.” And they leave me alone. Whoot!

    Gretchen’s last blog post..Odds and Ends for Hump Day

    June 25, 2008
  • That smiley shoud be an eight.

    8 + ) = 8)

    Who knew?

    Gretchen’s last blog post..Odds and Ends for Hump Day

    June 25, 2008
  • I’m sorry, it’s very rude but I didn’t read the comments. Just pootled in here to say I don’t get time to myself and it drives me to distraction. Beyond all belief probably. I love my littles but i so want time to myself. The most awful thing is that I want time to myself so badly that I even want to be away from my husband. *sigh* how did it get to this?

    Barbara’s last blog post..178/366 – Boxed In

    June 26, 2008
  • I was on my way to the dentist to get a filling today after dropping the kids at a sitter and glad for the time alone.

    Sad, so very sad.

    And a trip to the grocery store alone? Heaven!

    Elaine’s last blog post..ALERT – The Real Elaine May Have Been Abducted

    June 26, 2008
  • Oh, I also meant to say that I have started working out and that time to myself is wonderful!! Ok, I am done.

    Elaine’s last blog post..ALERT – The Real Elaine May Have Been Abducted

    June 26, 2008
  • [...] I’m still thinking a lot about how much time I spend being a Momma, and how much time I get to just be me.  [...]

    June 30, 2008
  • Ahhh, the power of Benadryl. I call it my guilty pleasure.

    Pipers last blog post..Is The Christmas Cheer On Back Order?

    December 24, 2008

Leave a comment


Name*

Email(will not be published)*

Website

Your comment*

Submit Comment

© Copyright 2007-2011 i am lotus - Designed by Pexeto