I’m not bitter at all. Really.
This past Saturday night, on Plurk, I mentioned what I got for Mother’s Day this year from John (I’ll give you three guesses) and asked if it was over the line to crap on his side of the bed on Sunday (Father’s Day), in retaliation. The responses were rather amusing to me, particularly this chick‘s suggestion to actually crap in his pillowcase. Now that’s creative!
Sadly, I took the high road and I did not crap on anything in the house with which John would have to come into contact, other than the toilet. And I flushed.
Instead, I framed a picture Braden drew for him, and had it waiting on the table with a nice arrangement of Heavenly Bamboo cuttings and a vanilla iced, dark chocolate cake.
(Please ignore the horrible icing job. it’s the thought that counts, or something.)
Then I made him breakfast when he got home off the road on Father’s Day morning – banana wheat pancakes with butter and syrup, and scrambled eggs.
I fed the dog, got the mail, and loaded the dishwasher (things he usually does when he’s home), and watched/played with Braden while John napped on the couch.
I suggested we use the surplus in our “grocery budget cash” to splurge on a take-out dinner from somewhere nice, in his honor.
Yup. All of that instead of gleefully defecating in the spot where he sleeps.
And I was going to say something smartass, just now, like, “I am SUCH a good person that it hurts,” or “Clearly, I like to reinforce the wrong type of behavior,” but that just wouldn’t be very nice, now would it?
And besides, the real truth is, he’s a great Father and Husband. He treats me so well on a regular basis that it really shouldn’t matter if he didn’t do anything out of the ordinary on one specific day. I get at least one foot rub every single day that he’s home, for crying out loud! He cleans up the kitchen after dinner, and does diaper laundry. Sometimes, he even sends me flowers, for no particular reason. I miss him when he’s gone.
He’s always there for Braden, and relishes his role as Father and Provider. He plays with, sings to, changes, and bathes Braden. When he’s home, he gets up at night if Braden needs something. He is sincerely interested and invested in his son, and it shows.
A recent dinner-time prayer actually inlcuded the words, “Thank You for poopy butts and the opportunity to clean them.” Mark that as an example of one of the reasons why I truly love him.
So really, it’s no trouble for me to make a little extra effort on this one day out of the year, to show John that I’m glad he’s the father of my son. For all that he does for me, every other day of the year, it really isn’t that hard to make a person feel special for one day.
And you better believe that I’m going to remind his no Mother’s Day recognizin’ ass of that EVERY.SINGLE.DAY. between now and May 10th, 2009. 
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MamaWise
My husband slept in the car today. My oldest fell asleep in his car seat right when I came home from the grocery store. So, instead of waking him up, my husband graciously offered to stay with him in the car. 30 minutes later I go and see, and he is sleeping himself. He had a good Father’s Day
Glad your hubby did too!
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Ness
What is up with guys ‘not believing in all that commercialized mothers day crap”, but they totally let US spoil them on fathers day!? I don’t get it either. But alas, like you, I don’t complain, and take the high road (with just as many evil thoughts about revenge lurking, unrequited in the background).
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Veronica
Happy Fathers Day to John!
Our Fathers day isn’t until September, and I have a sneaking suspicion that I will be too busy recovering from Amy’s birthday to do very much.
You know, except the stuff I always do. Make food, let him sleep unbothered, that kind of thing.
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Yvie
Hubby had work for father’s day, but it still went well. He was so happy at the Carbonara I made him and I am so happy for the nice massage I received from him lol.
Originally we were planning to have a dinner out but we’ll save that up for later.
Happy father’s day to your hubby too.
Half-Past Kissin' Time
Can I just say how godawful CUTE that little guy is? Okay, the big guy is cute, too (especially his prayers). You are blessed (and I’m glad you know it
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Shamelessly Sassy
One year Adam forgot Valentine’s Day. I should’ve pooped in his pillowcase. Congrats on taking the high road and choosing to not defecate on or in any linens.
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dysfunctional mom
That prayer just choked me up. Love it.
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river
My hubby is not a father, so for us it’s just another day.
Taz
happy belated fathers day to John..
sounds like he had a good day..
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Maggie's Mind
You’ve found one of the good ones, and I love that you appreciate him. Still, I do hope he’ll do a little better next Mother’s Day…
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Marylin
Aww Braden’s so lucky to have such a great daddy!
I’m glad he had a good day
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bronnie@dizzydaisy.com
I never thought of pooping on anything of hubby’s before now. Thank you for additional ideas on taking revenge for crap presents. My husband usually buys me something he wants! He’s learning though …
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Beck
My husband didn’t get me annnnything for Mother’s Day – although he did help the kids make me breakfast in bed – and when I was all hurt, he took them shopping. Gee, THANKS, honey.
My husband got lovely gifts made from macaroni at school. You’re welcome, darling.
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Deb
You did a good thing. I tried to do the right thing yesterday, but it seemed everything I did was wrong. Btw- that cake looks yummy. Hopefully you have enough left over for breakfast.
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Trish
you a wise and blessed woman Lotus – John sounds like a lucky guy , a good guy , a keeper and great Dad -next time nudge him harder and leave more hints for Mother’s day. You deserve it too.
Any cake tastes good !
MizFit
you are a wise woman.
this muthahood sh** is far more difficult than Id planned, errr, thought.
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Anna Ellis
Hey Lotus… Don’t feel bad… Mothers Day… I didn’t anything other then a poopy butt to change. Not even a card… So I hear ya girl…
Colleen
The cake was nice, but I think this post was the real gift to John. :O) Very nice – glad you have someone who truly appreciates you and loves his family!
“Thank You for poopy butts and the opportunity to clean them.” — too priceless!
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Colleen
The cake was nice, but I think this post was the real gift to John. :O) Very nice – glad you have someone who truly appreciates you and loves his family!
“Thank You for poopy butts and the opportunity to clean them.” — too priceless!
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Memarie Lane
I actually thought the icing looked nice.
I didn’t get Brad anything for father’s day, and he actually thanked me for not getting him anything.
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Lou Lohman
And well you should, Lotus. Remind him every. single. day.
And twice on Sunday.
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tenakim
Such a cute little family! You all are so lucky to have each other! I’m glad you took the high road, too.
Veronica Mitchell
Last year, my husband did nothing for Mother’s Day. Two weeks after that, he forgot my birthday. FORGOT.
He is very, very lucky I did not blog about this.
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Natalie
That chick that suggested pooping in his pillow case has been on a roll all weekend long.
Your husband sounds like a wonderful person. I’m not sure what he didn’t do for Mother’s Day, but it is nice that you aren’t holding a grudge. Well maybe a pretend one.
Your son’s feet look identical to my son’s feet when he was younger. THE PUDGE OMG THE PUDGE. Love it.
Allie
The Rack makes EVERY day Father’s Day for John!
My husband who works hard so I can stay home and take care of our kid(s) and animals. You know what he got? A new video game and a lecture on how NOT to mess up the bathroom rug when he goes in there to take a pee. I’m all, “what, do you go in there and do an Irish jig?”. Now I see your plant, cake, and beautious gift from Braden and have the guilts. THANKS LOTUS…
Sarah
Awww! What a special daddy!! You’re right…it isn’t too much to go out of your way. (although a little something on mother’s day is still a VERY good idea *rae*)
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Manic Mom
I love the pictures! I think you made a mighty fine cake! My Birthday is in May. Big Smile!
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Kay
I had to learn a long time ago not to gauge my husband’s undying affection for me through Hallmark holidays or else I would be a wrist slitting goth by now! Heh.
You are blessed Lotus!
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Dirty Laundry Diva
How sweet and humorous all at the same time! He sounds great and I am glad you made his day special. Hopefully he learned his lesson… I’ll be waiting to hear about how he does for mothers day 2009!
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Holly
Truly he got off easy.
Glad you had a good day together.
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Kecia
My hubby spent the day making a peanut butter pie from scratch…Like… washed and roasted the peanuts..made peanut butter etc… He got a card from me and one from our kiddo, but no gifts… I bought a stepping stone kit and plan to make one, but I thought Fathers Day was a week away…I really need a calendar!
I’m pretty sure your kid gets cuter every day.
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Karen of Sillymonkeez
Good for you! My Mother’s Day was extremely disappointing this year as well, but I guess a month was enough time for the resentment to dwindle. It’s wonderful that you recognize what a great thing you’ve got.
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Katy
I love the pic with the baby feet! All the feet around here are at least an adult size 5 now…and smelly.
Gross, but sweet tribute to your husband!
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frogpondsrock
It isn’t Fathers day here until September..
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Eve
You have such a fun little family. I remember those days of being young and enjoying life. I still enjoy life – it’s just so much CALMER now. =)
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Susan
My husband used to be very forgetful when it came to Mother’s Day (but somehow remembered the holiday for his own mother grrr). But now that our oldest is nearly 10, he remembers and does something really thoughtful every year.
It just takes some guys a little longer to clue in, is all! Your guy will surprise you one year, with a fantastic Mother’s Day, I’m sure!
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shannymar
My hubby pulled the same crap! What is it with men?
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Vanessa
this is my first time commenting on your site… i discovered it a few months ago and really enjoy reading.
I wanted to say I think it’s very big, and wonderful of you to do all those things for your husband. My husband works for a band doing lighting and they are on the road over 250 days of the year. This is the first year that he’s done something for me for mothers day…. and he was gone on Fathers Day. He’ll be back in 12 days and I plan on doing something special for him. I’m glad that your husband was able to be home on fathers day, and that you showed him just how much you appreciate him.
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Kat
Nice post, lucky man, lucky you.
My hubby didn’t do anything for my FIRST Mother’s Day, and has kissed-up and really overdone it every one since. I mean – honestly, too much! Though its nice to know he’s repented, ya know?!
Also, on the cake – I was thinking what a great frosting job it was. And with cake, its not so much the thought that counts as the taste!
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Trysha
I’m super late on this…but I got myself a new cell phone so my husband can keep in touch with me. Oh yes, I’m selfless that way.